I don't enjoy or want to have sex with my boyfriend anymore. How do I tactifully

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discuss this with him? We've been sexually active for about 18 months and in that whole time
he hs managed to give me an orgasm 3 times. At this point I am severely frustrated at this whole situation and I don't even want to have intercourse or oral sex as I feel it is a total waste of time on my part. The oral does feel good but it doesn't bring me to orgasm. I could perform oral on him and be done in 5-10 minutes and I don't have to get dirty or sweaty. At this point I feel like sex is just a chore that
I do just because he likes it because I'm really not getting anything out of it.

Except for breaks when one of us have to leave the city and when I have my period we usually do some type of sexual activity 1-2 times a day. I don't mind that, I used to enjoy it even though I didn't have an orgasm, but now it is just annoying.

I don't know how to politely explain this to him without him getting upset because he takes it personally and he shouldn't. I just want things to be better (for me). I know it frustrates him because we've briefly talked about it before. And it really baffles him, because of the previous girlfriends he has had before he said that they were all overly satisfied. And I think well that's fine because you were a lot younger and in much better shape than you were then. Or they were just lying to you or you are lying to me. Either way sometimes I want to say to him, "but, I'm your current girlfriend and I'm not satisfied even a little."

When we first started having sex, I was a virgin so we had this breaking in period that lasted for a long long time.
Just recently I'd say the last 2 months or so he can stay moderately hard in me with going limp and complaining about me being too tight. He said it used to feel like I was skinning him. Neither of us has an STD/I and we used lubrication to try to alleviate the problem.

I've told him that I can't really feel anything from any position and he says sorry I have such a little penis and I said I'm sorry too. But, the thing is that it is not little and I don't understand why I can't feel it.
He said that he notices sometimes when my body cums and he said that my body cums but doesn't orgasm which is similar to eating and not feeling full. Is that even real?

Our relationship is fine otherwise, but I am getting to the point where I would rather not be in a sexual relationship with him if these continue as they are.
 
Wow, maybe you should ask if anybody out there knows of something you could take that will bring on orgasms....Ask yourself If you really Love this guy and if you still want to be with him.I don't know what else to say except that if you tell him that your not interested in sex with him anymore he might look elsewhere. I thought only married people had these problems. L.O.L.- Or maybe the thrill is gone.The Honey Moon is over .Yikes..Everybody has all different problems ..Pray and see about a sex doctor maybe your hormones are off or something.
 
This is a tough one. I know where you're coming from - I have problems with the big O even though my partner spends forever trying to make it happen. I talked to a friend about this and she is EXACTLY the same way. We can make it happen for ourselves but our men can't - not for lack of trying. I realise it's not a problem with my partner - but with me.
This guy I'm seeing, I really love and I enjoy the whole intimate experience with him - even though I don't get to that point. It feels good anyway.
It doesn't sound like a problem with your boyfriend. You say he complains it's too tight - possibly you are tense as you do feel negatively towards sexual relations with your boyfriend - and this can be reflected in your body.
If you can't feel him, and this has never been an issue before then maybe you should go to the doctor. I knew a girl who had chronic thrush (she said it was thrush but who knows!) that caused nerve damage and loss of sensation in her vagina. She ended up having to go interstate to see a specialist. Extreme, but a possiblity.
 
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