i can't have sex with hubby any more coz of a wart? :(?

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recently i developed an anal wart. its one big wart kind of growth. i'm not sure what it is but i don't want to give anything to my husband. i love him so much. i didn't have sex with anyone. didn't cheat on him. i've hardly been out of the house in the last 4 years but here i am. i'm really tense, scared, depressed and all of a sudden my husband wants sex. we usually don't do it for 2 to 3 weeks at a time. but now all of a sudden he wants to. i've shown him the growth. told him i'm afraid it might be contagious and cannot do it with him. he doesn't understand. he keeps saying it looks like swelling and therez nothing wrong with me. i'm afraid i can never ever have sex with my husband again. coz i have this fear in my mind now that this might be HPV warts and i don't want to infect him. i love him sooooo sooooooooo much. i dont know how i've got this. i'm really scared. is our marriage gonna end because of this?
 
I understand the concern-- I would be concerned too. But before you jump to conclusions about anything, please go to the doctor and have it checked out. It may be an STD (this doesn't mean you've cheated-- sometimes symptoms take years to develop). If it is, there is typically treatment. Or it may be something completely unrelated. The only way you'll know is if you see a doctor.

I don't think you should fear your marriage ending over this. Your husband is aware of it and is still attracted to you. He's still wanting to be with you. If you want to please him but don't feel safe about sex right now, there are other ways to pleasure your man. Take a deep breath, schedule an appointment, and find out some more details. Good luck!
 
The first thing to do is simply go to a doctor and have this looked at. Most warts are easily removed and a doc can tell you if it's contagious....it's better to know for sure. In the meantime, give hubby oral, I'm sure he'll appreciate it.
 
Clearly you are not married. Stop with that nonsense.
Next you need to see a doctor. You also need to be firm and say No Sex. It could be hemorrhoids, herpes or a numerous amount of other things. Get it checked out first. If he is insisting to have sex he clearly does not understand your feelings and you may want to start wondering if he gave it to you. Have you been using protection? If not there is an open doorway for you to get anything. You may not have cheated on him he could have done/been doing it to you. The signs are there, read them.

DO NOT GIVE HIM ORAL!!!!
IF HE GAVE IT TO YOU, YOU COULD END UP WITH WARTS IN YOUR MOUTH!
BE SMART!
 
i know you said you didn't sleep with anyone else, but have you considered the fact that he may have and gave this to you? I don't mean to scare you or get you to think crazy thoughts, but realistically you need to figure out what is going on. it sounds as if it could be herpes go to the doc and get checked. today!
 
1. Go to the Doctor
2. Tell your husband you are having female problems (men don't ask anymore questions once they are told that)
3. Give him oral until its taken care of
 
you do have hpv and he already has it too
it is a virus ,spread easily and no cure
you can still have sex , use a condom
sometimes it never shows up as a wart that you can see
 
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