i cant get over the fact that my boyfriend has had sex?

Nini

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well i love my boyfriend and he loves me. he is my first and apparently im his 5th or 6th... i have really strict beliefs regarding sex and relationships and didnt want to go out with him at first but he asked me out so many times that i accepted. he said he likes me coz im hard to get...not that its been bad. we have a great time together. but i just cant get over the fact that he has had other girlfriends! i havnt been even touched by anyone other than him and it makes me feel akward and wierd everytime we kiss i keep thinking he has done this with other ppl :( and i know its stupid but i get upset. and the other day he was talking about how great sex is ( obviously im not gonna be ready to do that till mariage) and then i asked him how he knows and he goes " well sorry but ive expirienced it" :-s i got this really bad feeling of hate towards him and i feel like im too pure for him. i know its not his fault but still i cant get over it and i get grossed out by the fact that he made love to some other girl. its not that i think im better than him its just that maybe he should keep some stuff to himself :( i dont need to know everything about his past. and know im really upset because i wanted the first time to be special for both of us not just me. im sorry this is long but i need help.
 
You can't press a reset button in life. It's not a game. You can't undo what you've done. If he really does want to be with you, he'll make every effort to not have sex with another girl and wait til you're ready.
 
I COMPLETELY GET WHY YOURE FEELING LIKE THIS! I ALWAYS PRIDED MYSELF ON BEING THE GUY GIRLS COULDNT GET LIEK AS SOON AS THEY WOULD GET CLOSE OR LET ME HAVE IT I WOULD STOP SEEING THEM BECAUSE I FELT LIKE IN SOME WAY I WAS TOO PURE FOR THEM JUST LIKE YOU WERE SAYING... IF THIS GUY IS GOING ON HIS 5TH OR 6TH I WOULD HOLD OUT FOR SOMEONE WHO VALUES IT MORE.. BECAUSE HONESTLY, YOU MAY HAVE A GOOD TIME TOGETHER NOW, BUT EVENTUALLY YOURE GOING TO FIND YOURSELF AS JUST ANOTHER GIRL ON HIS LIST!!
 
I COMPLETELY GET WHY YOURE FEELING LIKE THIS! I ALWAYS PRIDED MYSELF ON BEING THE GUY GIRLS COULDNT GET LIEK AS SOON AS THEY WOULD GET CLOSE OR LET ME HAVE IT I WOULD STOP SEEING THEM BECAUSE I FELT LIKE IN SOME WAY I WAS TOO PURE FOR THEM JUST LIKE YOU WERE SAYING... IF THIS GUY IS GOING ON HIS 5TH OR 6TH I WOULD HOLD OUT FOR SOMEONE WHO VALUES IT MORE.. BECAUSE HONESTLY, YOU MAY HAVE A GOOD TIME TOGETHER NOW, BUT EVENTUALLY YOURE GOING TO FIND YOURSELF AS JUST ANOTHER GIRL ON HIS LIST!!
 
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