oh girl, you sound like my 16 yr. old daughter. but i am proud to say that we have finally put things in check. being a teen is tough on you and its sure tough on us moms. trust me. i wonder some days if i will get threw this. the key we found is talking. lost of talking and you both must be open for it. both stay calm. and both listen. there is not much else you can do to help the situation. my kid and i seem to fight without much reason. so long story---we finally came to a head and now we deal with each issue as it comes up TALK to each other.-