I can't fucking come out to my parents.

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*~*Iris C*~*

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They will accept no matter what. I just want it off my chest. This is more about me, not them.

Also, 19 isn't a kid, exactly. A young adult, or mature dipshit maybe, but certainly not a kid.

I hit puberty seven years ago. I'm pretty fucking 110% sure I'm attracted to guys because THE SIGHT OF A HOT NAKED GUY TURNS ME ON!

How many times do I have to clarify this shit?!



From the moment I first came on the toilet that fateful day in Y2K THEY BOTH turned me on.
 
GET A FUCKING JOB AND MOVE OUT OF YOUR PARENTS HOUSE THEN YOU WON'T BE A KID. OR GET A JOB AND HELP SUPPORT YOUR PARENTS HOUSE THEN YOU WON'T BE A KID.

But until you show responsibility in life, you are still a kid. You have never even made a responsible post, your self accountability is to blame everything on medication, even your sexuality. You pretty much make me sick, and I pray to God that if one of my sons decided to be gay, he turns out fucking nothing like how you have represented yourself.

You can't talk to your parents because you embarrass them. You are 19, not going to school, not getting a job, not doing anything but sitting around playing Sega.

Dude, Sega is dead. Move the fuck on in life.

You can walk or ride a bike or bus to work, millions of people do it every day.

All you are doing is making one excuse after another as to why you can't do anything.

Stop making excuses and get off your ass.
 
"boo hoo I can't tell my mom I'm gay". Its not that of a big deal. Its not like she even has to know. You don't have to tell them to feel more bisexual.

Just let it go. If they wouldn't care about it, than why would you bother telling them?
 
When I came out to my mom about being bi, I didn't tell her; she asked me if I was. I said yeah. She said "If I ever had to do a chick, it would be ANgelina Jolie." I loved my mom a lot more after that.
 
That's awesome dude. I think that if my mother asked me (which she wouldn't, I think she kind of knows), I would tell her. I don't think she'd say that though.

Your mom seems awesome.
 
I think I'm ready, but I am going to make it as casual as can be. If my dad calls me gay again when we are alone in the car, I'll tell him. Then I'll tell my mom when I get home.

...WOW. That REALLY didn't come out sounding right :gay:.

And he calls me gay in the joking kind of way. He's never been insulting, ever.
 
You work on your parents farm though. Not just sitting around all day playing video games and not having a fucking job and not going to school and generally just being a fucking leech. You own your own car, you have your own credit cards.

I live with my parents too, and I don't give them any money, I pay the electric, phone, food, doctors and water bill. Which since my parents own their house is pretty much all the bills.

In any case, you and I have JOBS. We are able to support ourselves. We are not lay abouts who should have their asses whooped more often with absolutely no personal responsibility.

We've known descent for how long? And how long have we been telling him to grow up? He is the most irresponsible person I know. My 8 year old has more work ethic and understanding of accountability---probably because I whoop his ass when he screws up. I don't think descent's ever had a proper ass whooping, I think his parents are those new agers who take a generally normal kid to the doctors and stuff pills down their throats. And I can say this with a relative amount of conviction because descent has been in and out of hospitals since he was what, like 8 or 10? Its no wonder the poor kid can't talk to his parents, he's never been able to talk to his parents because they just shove him onto the doctors. Can't really blame him there, but he is 18 now and it is time to be personally responsible. He can't continue blaming pills or his parents for being a fuck up anymore because he is an adult.

Act like a fucking ADULT.
 
Since your original post was a few days ago, not sure if you've already spoken to your parents. If not, have a couple of suggestions that might help.

Try not to start out with, "I think I'm... (whatever)." If you use that phrase, it sounds like you're undecided (which you may be). Most folks will automatically respond with, "No, you're just confused."

When you do talk to them, try to have both parents there at the same time. That way, you only have to gear yourself up once, and the ice is broken. If you have family meals (I've heard some families still do this), that would be a good opportunity. It's easier to carry on the conversation when you're also passing around the mac and cheese. Makes the tenor of the situation less confrontational, unless your family is prone to food fights.

Now, how to start the subject. Well, it could just be a matter of, "You know, for the past few years, I've found myself attracted to both women and men. Just wanted you to know, so you won't be surprised if I decide to date Tim the Tool Man."

You really don't need to get into any details of your sexual life. That's personal, and they probably don't want to hear about it. What you're telling them is on a emotional/philosophical level, so they can be supportive of your choices.

It's not easy telling anyone (especially those we care about) something about ourselves which may be outside the regular channels of conversation. Even if we hope/think they will be supportive, it still gives them the chance to disapprove. Yes, you're an adult now, so their approval/disapproval is a moot point, but it's understandable that you'd like them to be on your side with this.

Good luck.
 
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