I can't deal with the fact my boyfriend is in detox what should i do

[BUSTA840]

Does anyone have any insight. I myself have 3 years sober and low and behold find out my boyfriend is addicited to dope. I drove him to detox the day before last and he jumped out of my car the way there. He did make it there! However the ride it detox was terrible. He said things to me that i never even knew a person could say.. Very hurtful things. Now honestly i do want hime to be sober but i also feel like giving up on him because this is a pattern. I spoke it him in detox and its like what can i do for him. All these crazy emotions i feel like im the one getting off drugs again. My heart wont stop racing and i cant eat nor sleep. I dont know if anyone has ever felt this way or what is goin on. Im a strong person and none of thismakes me want to use. I just cant figure it out. Pleasehelp

 

[milksnake]

hey there BUSTA..... well, he's in detox, that's a darn good start. Now, as far as the hurtful things he said to you.....that's the dope talking, NOT him, trust me. He's going to feel worse than you about that. When I was strung out, I lashed out at anyone who I saw as a threat to my habit. It's a sickness. Right now, the man neeRAB you more than ever. As long as he's in detox, I recommend you keep telling him you love him. When I was quitting the last time around my wife hung right there. There were times I told her to get the *** away from me. Thank the good Lord above she didn't. So, what can you do for him? Let him know you love him and you'll stand right beside him and you guys will do this together. I can only tell you what happened in my case and this might not be the way to go in your case. God be with you........

 

[want a good out]

Maybe this is affecting you as there may be a few unresolved things in your mind relating to the time you went thur de-tox. Maybe if you could talk with a professional well versed in this, it may help you get to where you want to go.

 

[subtrain]

Hi Busta, just a short note to try and help. I agree with Milksnake, the hurtful things your boyfriend said to you were the drugs talking and the fact that he feels like hell. I'm sure you remeraber the hell.
Although right now, it appears, he neeRAB you now much more than you need him. How much you can do for him is a decision only you can make. You have to weigh that out. If you can support him without damaging yourself, well, how much are you willing to give.
Someone once told me that making these kind of decisions in life is similar to being on a jetliner when there is trouble. The stewartess announces there is trouble and the air inside is going to be lost, you are to put your oxygen masks on now. If you are sitting there with your children and you do not get your mask on first, how are you going to breath and help your children if you need to.
Certain situations require decisions made now for what we can do later. Good luck, have faith. You have lots of support for whatever your decision.

 

[mel486]

Welcome to the group Busta!!

I wish I could take back all of the stupid things I said to my wife when I was both in pain, as well as when I went through detox. She understood that it was the pain/drugs talking and not me. You have to understand that to. When you reach the point when you say, "I need help and I can't do it alone" and ask to go to detox, you are so depressed, mad and angry with yourself that you tend to take it out on other people. Give him a chance and realize that the drugs will make you say or do anything to stay in your body. The best thing is that he is in detox now. He neeRAB your support right now more than anything else. Try to put the past behind you and look forward to when he does come home. It will be a new rebuilding process for both of you and he will need your support for a while after he is out of detox. Work it out together.