I am unhappy that my husband won't discuss his trust fund with me?

[grannygirl]

We married 18 years ago. My husband recently redid his trust and won't discuss it with me. People keep telling me things he is saying about it. I am not allowed to remarry or the trust will cut me off. I will get $2000 a month. I also heard he doesn't feel the same for me as he once did. My three children are taken out of the trust. His kids get everything.
I have been putting my income in a joint account with my husband for 18 years. He expects it will buy us a home when we stop traveling. The house that I was supposed to live in for life was given to his son when we went on the road. The trust was supposed to maintain it for me for life.
I am so angry but afraid to put my income in an account of my own. I hate conflict. I am just so angry and I feel like a fool. He treats me pretty good but at times he gets in my face over stupid stuff. I have figured that I have contributed $270,000 and health insurance since we married.

 

[Everybody's Favorite]

If he won't discuss it with you, you still can discuss it with him. But before you do it, plan what are you going to discuss - your frustration or your interests. Remember marriage is a business agreement with emotions involved. Good luck.

Putting your income in the account of your own will achieve the following:
- you have some spare money to play with *as long as you're married*
- you will escalate the conflict with your husband by making this statement
All accounts , joint or personal, get audited and divided upon divorce. So if that's what you're thinking - it will not get you very far.

I think you both should agree on some "personal" money, it it doesn't have to be a small sum either. I'd even make it official and write up some papers with an attorney stating that he has no claims of your acct and you don't have claims over his. Who said everyone should operate on a joint account strategy. I actually believe it's a poor man's approach to family finance.