I am trying to abstain from having sex?

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I am trying to abstain from having sex until I get married which may be a very long time from now. any suggestions on how to make it through/ keep my mind off of it?
 
Be involved with others who views this the same as you. Consider that your body is the Holy Temple of God and He wants you to save your body for your husband.
 
Find a support group or a friend with the same goal, so you have someone to talk with. Educate yourself on the subject by search the topic on the web, or reading, books on how to abstain from sex. A big challenge is temptation and how to deal with that. May want to talk to your doctor, or a professional, or a pastor, someone like that.

Good luck.
 
That's great, my wife had and I had both done so before we were married and have absolutely no regrets. My advice would be only get involved with guys who agree with you on this, avoid films/tv/books that would put your mind on it off the top of my head.
 
Masturbation helps. I'm serious. It's the safest sex you'll ever have, and spiritually quite pure. Especially since you're a woman. The bible says men shouldn't spill their seed, but you don't have any. And god designed men to spill their seed during the nighttime if they don't masturbate anyways, bad planning I guess...
 
Do not put yourself in situations that might become sexual. Meditation, cold showers....
 
very commendable my friend.
may I suggest a book? Magic Touch by Gila Manolson

It may not be of your religious beliefs but it is a FANTASTIC book describing the practice of Shomer Nagia (Orthodox Jewish belief which translates as Guarded Touch)
It really points out the ultimate purpose of sexual encounters and marriage and gives you a very beautiful view of what it means to be with the person you are meant to be with.
Im a Catholic and found it very inspirational and spiritual.
Of coarse some of the practices are a bit extreme, but take from it what you need/
It also gives you more of a base behind your reasoning of waiting.

good luck with it.
 
first of all good for u!

and yes there are a few things you can do...never hook up with someone when your drunk b/c your inhabitions are going to be lowered and most likely you will have sex...happened to my friend who wanted to save it for marriage.

don't lead guys on b/c sometimes they get a little too excited and just go for it.

and let your boyfriend at the time know you are not going to have sex with him, if he respects you, he will be fine with it and will not have sex with you even if you change your mind in the moment, b/c he knows that you mauy regret it...

hope this helps!
 
good for you
go to the Mormon Church web site they tell you how to do just that

good luck
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excercise, read in the word ,The Holy Bible. Look at all the things on a daily bases that God has graced you with, thank him, than tell him you are trying to be obediant and ask him to remove from you the desire .
Trust me, he will definately bless you if you are obediant and follow his way.
I just went through this three years ago, VERY happily married today with the most amazing lover , never knew it could be this good.
God WILL bless you for your obediance.
 
Anyone here who tells you it's not possible is talking out of their butts, because there are people who die virgins, and there's nothing wrong with it at all. Sex is natural, and there is nothing wrong with it. But yeah, rather wait until you're married. Don't take advise from people who only think with their genitals and can't control themselves. Nobody ever died from holding it in until marriage, but a heck of a lot of people have died from doing it before marriage (AIDS, STD's). Which is why God told us to wait for marriage.

Don't put yourself in situations that will lead you to do it. If you can kiss someone and know that it wont lead you to have sex, then go for it.

And personally, I wanne marry a girl who is still a virgin - not a girl who's opened her legs to every 3rd guy she's met.
 
If you're Christian, read the Bible, pray, etc.

My husband and I both waited until our wedding night, although when we got married, I wasn't Christian. I just did it because I believed that you shouldn't be having sex until you're in a relationship/situation in which you are prepared to have a kid if one should come along. Basically, I believe if you aren't ready to have a kid, you shouldn't be having sex. That was enough of a reason for me.
 
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