Thanks in advance for any advice you can give me! I definitely won't base my sexual experience on what yahoo answers tells me to do, but any guidance would be much appreciated!
Basically, I have been friends with this guy since May (I am 18, he's 19). We met through a facebook page for the university/dorm building we were both going to be attending in the fall. We began by talking about college-related stuff and how excited we were to to be leaving home, etc. etc, however it quickly progressed into a situation where we messaged each other extremely lengthy messages once or twice, sometimes three times a day about anything and everything. We had basically all the same interests, values, and personality, so we figured we would be really good friends when we got to college. Well, he became my best friend here and we spent practically all our time together. Everybody told me he liked me, I made it clear to him I didn't want a relationship and essentially told him I had no feeling for him (when I actually did). Anyway, we accidently hooked up one night while we were both drunk, and after that he would just tell me he wants a relationship, he absolutely adores me, he just wants to be with me, so on and so forth. After awhile of his persistence and my saying "no" for a variety of reasons, I decided to give it a go last week. I need to make it clear that I had essentially NO sexual experience. I had kissed one guy in my life, and that was it. He is much more experienced and has had multiple sex partners from a relatively early age. He said he will wait for me as long as it takes and wants to make it absolutely perfect when I decide I'm ready, and he says he respects my decision (he knows how little experience I have). So I'm just curious to see, based on this situation, how long you would recommend waiting to lose my virginity to him? (I've already decided he's the guy I want to lose it to). I have no religious views holding me back, just the idea that I want to make this relationship work and don't want to jump into things too quickly. We have done a bit of experimentation which has all been wonderful, and he's very concerned to make sure I don't go farther than I want to go before I'm ready. When we're fooling around it feels like I could easily just have sex right then and there, but I know that's my hormones talking and not my logic. I want to wait, but for how long? Not only is it going to be my first time with him, but my first time ever. We've talked about where we see our relationship going, and he is in it for the long-haul. We've already been naked together a few times and I have technically stayed the night and slept in his bed. So, what do you guys say?
Sorry for the long question. I guess I am just desperate for advice or any sort of help on this issue! I am so naive in this area!
Thanks for your help!
