I have never been turned on by sexual intercourse. I find porno repulsive and never got much of a thrill from intercourse. I masturbate about 3-4 times a week, but I only imagine a few fetishes that have nothing to do with sex at all. I won't bother listing them here because its getting off the point, but I'll just say it has nothing to do with BDSM (since that's what most people automatically assume the term 'fetishes' means), nor is it anything illegal.
I don’t want to limit myself to the people I’m sexually compatible with. They are few and far between and sexual gratification is much less important to me than finding someone I like being around.
PLEASE READ: Understand that while I say I don’t derive pleasure from sexual intercourse, that doesn’t mean I have impotence problems nor that the act repulses me to the point where I cannot perform it. Either the girls I did have sex with were both really polite and good at acting, or I know what I’m doing because I turned them on. Basically, Id be glad to have sex with a girl to get her off, and I don't really care if I get off...but I know shes probably going to care.
Just to head off a few answers before opening this up to you guys…
1) Please don’t tell me to 'seek counseling'. Counseling cannot change a person's sexual nature.
2) No, I’m not secretly gay. I think when you are gay or bi, you pretty much know it, whether you want to admit it to yourself or others.
3) Please don’t suggest that I either find a girl who doesn’t like sex or to expect that the right girl will understand. Sex is an integral part of a romantic relationship.
4) I don't want to only seek out the 2% of girls into the same thing I am. I want to choose my girlfriend based on looks and personality, not her sexual identity.
I don’t want to limit myself to the people I’m sexually compatible with. They are few and far between and sexual gratification is much less important to me than finding someone I like being around.
PLEASE READ: Understand that while I say I don’t derive pleasure from sexual intercourse, that doesn’t mean I have impotence problems nor that the act repulses me to the point where I cannot perform it. Either the girls I did have sex with were both really polite and good at acting, or I know what I’m doing because I turned them on. Basically, Id be glad to have sex with a girl to get her off, and I don't really care if I get off...but I know shes probably going to care.
Just to head off a few answers before opening this up to you guys…
1) Please don’t tell me to 'seek counseling'. Counseling cannot change a person's sexual nature.
2) No, I’m not secretly gay. I think when you are gay or bi, you pretty much know it, whether you want to admit it to yourself or others.
3) Please don’t suggest that I either find a girl who doesn’t like sex or to expect that the right girl will understand. Sex is an integral part of a romantic relationship.
4) I don't want to only seek out the 2% of girls into the same thing I am. I want to choose my girlfriend based on looks and personality, not her sexual identity.