I am always arguing with my husband over economical problems. Help me!?

[UnluckyGirl]

I was a 22 years old girl living in Iran with very good money that I made and also my dad gave when I married a 23 years old Norwegian guy without a job who was studying. We had so many difficulties to marry but finally we made it. When I moved to Norway he had already given up on studying and he had 50 000 studying loan that he has to pay even now!! He did not even work 3 years ago and he was living poorly in a very small room in a very small town. I spent many days without eating anything yet I walked to school everyday in cold snow without warm clothes and... but I loved him and stayed with him. We moved to a bigger room which had absolutely nothing in it! No refrigiator, oven, nothing. We got no help from his mother who did not even wash our clothes. She did not even help us with 50-60 dollar and that caused arguments between us too. Then with my encouragement he got a parttime job which only helped us to pay our important expenses yet we did not have money for food! I applied for 600 jobs and did not get!! He tried to get 3-4 creditcards to be able to pay for expenses! 1 year after that we moved to Oslo for better opportunities and we had EXTREMELY difficult time for 2 months and I had to sleep on empty floor until he got a fulltime job and slowly we bought things without anyones help. I got a fulltime job after a year which was around 70% of his income. So I paid around 30-40% of my income for our sharing expenses. But he is never satisfied and he claims that I must pay for creditcard bills that he has spent on me 3 years ago. He also says that he does not have any money in his account after he pays for his studying loan that he has got 6 years ago before he knew me! He always complains if I buy any dress, make up and such things for me. After finansproblems I lost my fulltime job and got 40% job which isnt enough for my own expenses yet I still give him 20% of our expenses.He claims that I must give more to him and another prob is that he wants to rent 10 000 dollar to his mother who has not helped me even 50 dollar when I was dying hungry! He says that his mother will give back the money! We just argue all the time. Help me.

 

[wisewoman]

sorry i think you married a bad man and his bad family you must know that this married is going no where ...the best thing if you want to stay together is to move far away from his family and make him work for his money and dond give money to him..as while you give him money he will not work for it..but me i would leave

 

[only me]

This is very difficult but i think that if it has been so hard since you been with him i think you should really think about how strong your relationship is. If you feel that even if you argue you still love eachother then i think it time you both really talked about how you want things to get better between the both of you. I know how hard it is to be with somebody especially if is about money but i think that you really need to see if you can last with him. If not then is time you go back with your parents and start again.
I wish you the best.