HatersEnvyMe
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I am 26 years old and I recently lost my job so I live with my parents. The problem that I am having is that my mother is always making choices, telling me what i should do or where to go, and making decisions for me. I tell her every single day to stop making my choices, my decisions, where i should go or what i should do. Her excuse is she is only trying to give advice and I tell her your advice is not necessary or needed as I didn't ask you for your advice or opinion. Then, I say to her how do you expect me to grow up, have a family of my own and a career if you keep making choices and decisions for me? Like I really don't understand what else I should say for her to shut up and leave me alone.
With all this she tells me I need to find a man (i choose to be single) I want to be a lawyer and have my own business. Yet her choice is for me to get married and have kids, so that she can be a grandmother which i said if you want to have kids around go adopt one. Then its you should go out, you should be a cop be this do this and that. I am completely losing my mind and patience with her to the point that if I do get married I will never speak to her again for the hell that she is putting me through. I can't even live my life. Its like she wants to live her life all over again through me.
I really don't know what else to say to her to get it through her head. She doesn't listen please help me find some way to get her to listen and stop bothering me and allow me to live my life. I feel like I'm like 16 years old with the way she treats me. I feel like I am not even an adult and ready for that marriage shit because of her and her annoying way. I also feel like I can't even make choices or decisions and when I have that opportunity i can't come up with a solution. I feel lost and confused whether that sounds weird it is true.
Please help me!!!! Don't tell me to move out or ignore her and do what I want, that still wont work because it certainly doesn't work with my sister who is out of the house.
She only does this with me and i have 3 brothers living at home 2 older and 1 younger. When my sister lived with us for a year while at med school she wasn't even like that to her. I feel trapped in a way and everything I say or wanna be is stupid but she doesn't say that to any of my other siblings its just me and its like nothing I do is ever good enough and nothing I say makes sense. When I express this to her she says I'm stupid or thats nonsense or that doesn't make sense or your talking crazy.
This is why I need help I can't get her to understand shit she treats me a lot different then my other siblings and I don't know what to do with her anymore.
I would do the things you guys are advising but my mother is not only a nagger, but she's such a complainer, she's demanding, selfish, obnoxious, nosy, a bully, and not to mention extremely controlling. When I do say stop nagging and all that other stuff she just replies with "if i don't nag it doesn't get done".
I can't get her to stop and my father is no help cause she nags him and bosses him around and plus my dad isn't the typical father you can go and talk to and get advice or help from. You can't have a conversation with him or anything its really sad though. :-/
With all this she tells me I need to find a man (i choose to be single) I want to be a lawyer and have my own business. Yet her choice is for me to get married and have kids, so that she can be a grandmother which i said if you want to have kids around go adopt one. Then its you should go out, you should be a cop be this do this and that. I am completely losing my mind and patience with her to the point that if I do get married I will never speak to her again for the hell that she is putting me through. I can't even live my life. Its like she wants to live her life all over again through me.
I really don't know what else to say to her to get it through her head. She doesn't listen please help me find some way to get her to listen and stop bothering me and allow me to live my life. I feel like I'm like 16 years old with the way she treats me. I feel like I am not even an adult and ready for that marriage shit because of her and her annoying way. I also feel like I can't even make choices or decisions and when I have that opportunity i can't come up with a solution. I feel lost and confused whether that sounds weird it is true.
Please help me!!!! Don't tell me to move out or ignore her and do what I want, that still wont work because it certainly doesn't work with my sister who is out of the house.
She only does this with me and i have 3 brothers living at home 2 older and 1 younger. When my sister lived with us for a year while at med school she wasn't even like that to her. I feel trapped in a way and everything I say or wanna be is stupid but she doesn't say that to any of my other siblings its just me and its like nothing I do is ever good enough and nothing I say makes sense. When I express this to her she says I'm stupid or thats nonsense or that doesn't make sense or your talking crazy.
This is why I need help I can't get her to understand shit she treats me a lot different then my other siblings and I don't know what to do with her anymore.
I would do the things you guys are advising but my mother is not only a nagger, but she's such a complainer, she's demanding, selfish, obnoxious, nosy, a bully, and not to mention extremely controlling. When I do say stop nagging and all that other stuff she just replies with "if i don't nag it doesn't get done".
I can't get her to stop and my father is no help cause she nags him and bosses him around and plus my dad isn't the typical father you can go and talk to and get advice or help from. You can't have a conversation with him or anything its really sad though. :-/