Husband trying to get out of deployment/army.. PLEASE HELP?

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Brittany!

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I'll start from the beginning. My husband signed up in August 2008. He is infantry and went to Ft Benning, GA. During basic training, he messed up both knees, fractures in both. After basic he was assigned Ft Lewis as his first duty station and got on profile. He can't stand for more than 10 minutes and can't carry any amount of weight. Shortly after arriving he heard the news of "we're deploying in August".. and obviously my heart stopped when I heard this. He was told he wasn't going to go to NTC due to him being on profile, but he left last week for NTC in California for a month. He's now on what they call "white cell". He sits on his butt all day, and has LAUNDRY duty for 6 hours a day. How this is suppose to prepare him for war, BEATS ME! When he returns home, they are saying he is going to go to physcial therapy.. and if this doesn't work they are going to reclass him or switch his MOS to something else. My husband thought this meant no deploying, but found out last night that the same thing happened to a friend of his and he's deploying in August but will be sitting around the whole year he's over there due to him also being on profile. Personally I think it's stupid to have guys over there that can hardly walk, etc.. who didn't even TRAIN before hand.. besides learning how to do laundry duty/gym duty/etc. My husband wants to start a family, and does not want to deploy leaving us home without him for a year. He is literally willing to give up everything to not leave for this deployment as we both do not feel like he is ready for it.

So my two questions are...
1. I don't want my soldier going over there with two messed up knees.. without training since he JUST got to base not even a month ago. So how can he get out of a deployment? Is there any ways of him staying in the army (because he does enjoy his job).. and without getting discharged.
2. If this is not possible, how can he get out of the army completely without it affecting his career later down the road. My husband has always dreamed of being a doctor, and I don't want him smoking weed and getting a dishonorable discharge and it messing up his career later down the road.


Please help us! Answer answers will be great and I appreciate you taking the time out to read this! Have a great day!


Thanks, Private Valario Wife's
 
My Husband is currently deployed to Iraq...for 15months (4.5 to go!!)

I'd give ANYTHING to have him home. But alas...a contract was signed. He's In....where ever it takes him.

Same is going to go for your Husband.

They signed up to serve their Country...in any way they are asked.

If it's any consolation...my Husband has learned a great deal from this experience. In fact, he's so much the better man for it. And for us both, it's brought a major lesson in getting through tough times...coming out together. Stronger...and more in love than ever before.

Now he'll have his Schooling paid for in full. (And who else can say that, in these economic times!)

Look at the good, in a not so great situation...and go with it.
 
he will still be deploying, there's no way out of it unless he runs away like a coward to a different country
which i suggest he doesnt do. he signed the dotted line to serve his country and his country's convenience not his
sorry to here about his knees, but they will find him something to do over there that doesn't require walking around much. but he will still be required to go

good luck, he'll be fine
hollyy
 
My husband just retired last July and also was stationed up at Fort Lewis. A year and half before his retirement my son got diagnosed with Cancer and one week after my son's diagnoses they told my husband that he was going to Kuwait for a year. I was worry about my son's Cancer and now I was worried if my husband would come home. I was so stress OUT OF MIND. I CRIED SO HARD I WOULD THROW UP. Dealing with my sons CANCER alone and with other children also was going to be a total nightmare with my husband home. The military found it in his best interest to stay home with my son and family. I couldn't thank them enough. Then his command was going to get activated to Iraq and he retired three days before his STOP LOOSE kicked in and got very bless. I am so very very glad to be done.

What you can do is apply for a HARDSHIP (WHICH IS HARD TO GET) BUT CAN TRY. MORE THAN LIKELY THEY WILL SEND HIM UNLESS A DOCTOR WILL SAY HE IS UNFIT TO GO. UNFORTUNATELY THEY CAN SEND HIM. WHY DID I TELL YOU MY STORY.....Because I prayed so hard for God to help our family. To help us soften the heart of someone. HE DID. JUST PRAY. I hope you he doesn't have to go. I know how hard it is to worry about them. My husband deployed a lot prior to my son's CANCER. He even went down to Katrina and helped out down there in New Orleans. He's been all over the world. SAD thing is families do have to put up with a lot in the military. Military life is not for the weak at heart. I happen to be one of those weak at hearts......my husbands 20 years was sooo very hard for me to get through. I will say prays for you. I do truly hope things work out for you. You can e-mail me threw my profile if you have any other questions. My husband has grown up in the military, His father was in the Airforce and I sure if you need some more hints on some steps to take I could ask him to give you some ideas. Good Luck darling.
 
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