My husband and i have been married for the past 3 years ( no kids) Although we are deeply in love with each other, there is 1 annoying habit of my husband which puts me off.
Whenever there is some kind of disagreement, he starts shouting at me , taunting and speaks rudely.In response to this , i prefer to still talk to him politely but if its intolerable , i too starts shouting at me .Then to dodge myself getting hurt more with his comments i avoid resolving the issue ( especially bcoz he is angry and is only shouting at me , i'd prefer to resolve the issue when he is calm and in a better position to think of a solution)
But when he sees me not responding , he starts talking about going for a divorce.
Such things have happened lot of times. He speaks of divorce most of the times we have fight. I have told him several times divorce is not solution for the problem, u need to look into your flaws and work on it. But i see the same kind of behavior being repeated and when he cools down he says he didnt mean it.
I know he doesnt MEAN it when he says he'd divorce me...but it kind of hurts me even more .And compels me to ask a question " Does he has no respect for our marriage ? dat he wants divorce at d drop of a hat?"....When i get this feeling , der is no room left for further resolving the problem...
HOw do i get him to stop talking about divorce unnecessarily and offending the sacred bond of marriage?
Such kind of thoughts/ remarks in a marriage radiates negative energy all over.
What should i do ?
Whenever there is some kind of disagreement, he starts shouting at me , taunting and speaks rudely.In response to this , i prefer to still talk to him politely but if its intolerable , i too starts shouting at me .Then to dodge myself getting hurt more with his comments i avoid resolving the issue ( especially bcoz he is angry and is only shouting at me , i'd prefer to resolve the issue when he is calm and in a better position to think of a solution)
But when he sees me not responding , he starts talking about going for a divorce.
Such things have happened lot of times. He speaks of divorce most of the times we have fight. I have told him several times divorce is not solution for the problem, u need to look into your flaws and work on it. But i see the same kind of behavior being repeated and when he cools down he says he didnt mean it.
I know he doesnt MEAN it when he says he'd divorce me...but it kind of hurts me even more .And compels me to ask a question " Does he has no respect for our marriage ? dat he wants divorce at d drop of a hat?"....When i get this feeling , der is no room left for further resolving the problem...
HOw do i get him to stop talking about divorce unnecessarily and offending the sacred bond of marriage?
Such kind of thoughts/ remarks in a marriage radiates negative energy all over.
What should i do ?