Husband... Sex problems... Not sure what else to do...?

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So, my husband has had a very low sex drive... This year alone has only been 5 times - And in 2008 definitely not a lot either. I have gone through all the options in my mind since I dont think he is cheating, I feel that he is attracted to me but then again, he is 25, I am a good looking woman (not trying to be conceited or anything but in this case I know that I am attractive enough!)
I try everything that might turn him on but nothing... If he isnt in the mood.. he just isnt in the mood.
Again, I dont think he is cheating and he tells me he is definitely still attracted to me. But then WHAT IS IT!? He still doesnt change the fact that we dont have sex. I am 23, we have been married for 3 years and I am tired of thinking my youth is going to waste because he doesnt want to do anything. Not even go out. Could it be depression? If so, what to do? Or, is he cheating? or he is just not attracted to me any more? I need advice. I truly do not want to end in divorce but it looks to be the situation. Help... Oh yeah - I asked him to go to the doctor - to at least do it for me, and he said no. I look forward to your answers...
 
It's quite possible that it's depression. What does he say when you ask him about his libido (or lack thereof). It's very hard for guys to admit that they need help. I would talk to him, ask him what's going on. Let him know you are worried and that you are feeling very unloved, unatrractive, etc. Let him in to all of this and ask him to at the very least see a marriage counselor with you.

Approach him in a non confrontational caring manner. Let him know how worried you are about the marriage. Let him know you love him and you want things to work, but right now things aren't working and you aren't happy. Then ask him if he'd go see a marriage counselor to help you guys work through things. The marriage counselor will be able to diagnose any issues with him (and you) and help you resolve them. He may just need to hear it from an outside party.

Best of luck to you sweetie, I know it's not easy.
 
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