how to stop all the arguing?

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blahh

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i go to school untill 3:00 on weekdays while my boyfriend is at work.
He usually gets home at 6:00 expecting dinner ready and the house clean.
It is so difficult i have so much homework and i am usually tired when i come home and want to take a nap.
To make it worse i have night class 2 days out of the week and i dont get to see him on those days.
My curfure is also at 11pm and i have to leave his appartment at 1030
He gets so frustrated with me and wont talk. I am so stressed out with school and he makes it worse.
When dinner isnt ready or the house isnt clean he is so rude and always complains but i am doing the best i can.
He pushes me to the point where i am in the room crying by myself.
I dont know what i can do to stop the arguing and make everything better?
HELP PLEASE
 
hello... :)

i think he is very macho man, he likes to have a maid, no a wife.

you have to seat and talk about this, let him know that you are tired and you do a lot of stuff during the day,he most understand, i think a relationship shoul not make you cry dear.. dont let anybody make you feel like crap, ask him to hired a maid to cook and clean, if he really wants to spend some money. a man have to share the home duties, is part of been toghetter.
 
Not what you want to hear but...you are with a man that doesn't support you in any way at all. He is either so dense he doesn't understand or thinks women are supposed to clean and cook and go to school. That isn't going to change. If you were to marry him (BAD idea) he will expect all that AND for you to take care of the kids single handed. I don't mean to be mean to you, but why oh why do women but up with this crap from their BFs or even husbands? Do you feel you have no self worth? How do you manage to love someone that NEVER thinks of you other than as a maid? Do you not love yourself??
He should be PROUD of you and supporting you in bettering yourself by doing all your homework, etc. and thrilled you even try to make a dinner once a week! He should be doing his own laundry and taking YOU out to dinner on your busiest days when you have a full schedule and are just overwhelmed. In fact, when you have homework, I wouldn't even go over there. What does your curfew have to do with any of this? If you didn't have one, would he keep you there doing his housework and cooking and also doing your homework into the wee hours of the morning?? Do you think so little of yourself that you don't see that there is no way to "make everything better" with this guy?? Why? because he isn't making ANY effort. You can't "stop the arguing" either unless you want to be at his beck and call. I have known guys like that and even if you never slept and spent 24/7 making his life great and doing everything he expects, it will never, ever be enough. Why/ Because the fault isn't with YOU- he has to change and those are not little things- it is who he is. It sounds as if he is just using you or is threatened that you are furthering your education. His sulking a rudeness when you can't be super woman sounds like borderline emotional abuse to me. Either way, he is bad news. What does HE do for YOU? Please, think better of yourself- you deserve support and a 50/50 relationship- we all do. Don't settle for less.
 
You can make everything better by finding a new bf. This guy is a jerk. He wants a maid and a cook, not a gf. It's not "the house" as in your house together, it's his house and as such not your responsibility to clean up after him. That is ridiculous.
 
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