My father died last year and my 74 year old mother met a 40 year old man who took an interest in her. She believes him that she is interesting, beautiful, fun, etc. As time went on we did what we could to protect her but she went around us and invited him back in. During this time she has given him access to her home, car, cell phone, atm and charge cards. She became distant and very mean and hateful to everyone around her...friends and family. And seemed to ignore her health not eating and sleeping right.
She did end up in the hospital and we have been able to get into her finances because of calls that she hadn't made her January house payment with February payment now due. We have uncovered $75,000.00 in cash and credit card charges that she has spent on this man. We are taking steps to protect her financially right now but how do we get rid of him.
She denies that she has spent money on him and defends him when we point out his intentions. He hides when we try to find him and is on the street right now living a day or two at a time with other drug friends. Its hard to find him but he did call and leave messages while she has been in the hospital so we know he is out there waiting for her to come home and kick us (i have a sister and bother involved both out of state n I live 4 hours away) out. She knows some of his family and can probably track him down at some point.
Does anyone know how we can keep him away from her since she is planning on finding him once she gets home. Our worry is not only will he finally run through her money but when she gets to that point and has to tell him no he would try to over power her or push her and something would go terribly wrong. She is a tiny woman. She isn't mentally gone just in denial and we don't know how we can help protect her and keep him away.
Thanks for any insight or advice.....
She did end up in the hospital and we have been able to get into her finances because of calls that she hadn't made her January house payment with February payment now due. We have uncovered $75,000.00 in cash and credit card charges that she has spent on this man. We are taking steps to protect her financially right now but how do we get rid of him.
She denies that she has spent money on him and defends him when we point out his intentions. He hides when we try to find him and is on the street right now living a day or two at a time with other drug friends. Its hard to find him but he did call and leave messages while she has been in the hospital so we know he is out there waiting for her to come home and kick us (i have a sister and bother involved both out of state n I live 4 hours away) out. She knows some of his family and can probably track him down at some point.
Does anyone know how we can keep him away from her since she is planning on finding him once she gets home. Our worry is not only will he finally run through her money but when she gets to that point and has to tell him no he would try to over power her or push her and something would go terribly wrong. She is a tiny woman. She isn't mentally gone just in denial and we don't know how we can help protect her and keep him away.
Thanks for any insight or advice.....