How to sneak health into partner's life?

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honestguy602

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I have an overweight wife, and she is bordering on obese. When we talk about it, she gets confrontational and yells at me for being shallow. Its starting to affect her in ways she cant even see. She lays around day and night, has no energy for anything but to do the minimum necessary housework, usually all at one time after strong coffee. She is constantly complaining about backaches. She's even breathing differently lately. Her father just had a heart scare too, not long ago, so I get worried. Here's the problem. She eats crap. Meat and starch plus junk food. Little to not fruits/veggies. She works at a desk, and does not exercise. If we go to the park, she wants to drive. I am an active person myslef, and have tried to get her to join me, but nothing. We go to the gym, and I work out, she gets on treadmill and walks. Slowly.
We cannot talk about this issue because it always ends in a fight. I have tried to introduce healthier eating habbits, but have yet so far failed. She does most of the cooking. When I cook, I go very generous on the veggies, and serve her smaller portions, only to start another fight. Please help, I am at a loss.
Thanks, and yes.
She sees pictures of herself and complains. I offer advice "exercise more, eat less" we fight.
I have tried sneaking dietic herbs into the coffee and the food, but have to be very careful as I cannot afford any of the such. (I, myself am underweight.) I got caught, we faught.
I used to buy her sexy clothes and clothes in general. Now when she brings it up, I say "I don't wanna buy you anything your just going to shrink out of". We fight.
I point out health food stores, organic foods, hell, I even grow my own damn vegitables. She wont eat em.
 
I think if you keep on talking about the same issue (her weight) she is bound to be irritated by it. You can talk to her and tell her all the negative effects it will have and the health problems she will be facing in her future. Tell her that you love her the way she is.. but for both of your future she needs to take care of herself. What about kids? It be will difficult if she is overweight and if you already have kids then too she needs to be healthy.

Tell her politely and with a lot of love and affection that you don't want her to be super-slim but just healthy and that's for her own benefit. Coz you don't want to loose her.




All the best...
 
I am having the same problem with my husband. What I do is tell him that because his father has had 7 heart attacks and survived it can happen to him easily. What else you can do is tell her to go to the gym but go with her. I have been told i was shallow too but come on overweight thing is very harmful for the heart. Maybe sneak her a diet pill or buy something you can put in her drink so it can help her loose the weight. or you can buy some clothes that are pretty for her but make sure its a size down and tell her see you can fit into it. I have always been thin and dont understand why people dont want to loose the weight. I mean seriously its horrible for your health and will eventually kill you. I have another idea you go to the grocery store and buy organic and sugar free things she cant gain wait from things that has no caleries. Make her a protein shake and thatll fill her for hours it does my husband and itll supress her appetite.
 
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