Chikberger
New member
Okay, so I've been told I'm really smart, pretty, interesting, etc and yet I have horribly low self-esteem from my childhood years that just hasn't gone away. I have everything I need to be strong and respectable except for my own inner being and insecurities. I'm always so careful to please everyone and I'm so sensitive to everyone's feelings that they tend to see me as a pushover and walk all over me. Before they get to know me, they are intimidated by me, but when they do get to know me, they feel like they can do whatever they want and I will just take it and be quiet. I'm tired of being so spineless, and yet I don't know what to do about it because:
1. I hate conflict, I hate fighting and hostilities
I wonder if there ARE actually some people who will be kind to me regardless of my super-nice and pushover personality? Are there people in the world who will be kind to me and not try to take advantage of me even though I'm so nice, or do I have to change? and if so, how do I do it? what should I do, act like, not do. (specifics please).
Thanks
1. I hate conflict, I hate fighting and hostilities
I wonder if there ARE actually some people who will be kind to me regardless of my super-nice and pushover personality? Are there people in the world who will be kind to me and not try to take advantage of me even though I'm so nice, or do I have to change? and if so, how do I do it? what should I do, act like, not do. (specifics please).
Thanks