SayAnything
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i want to lose weight and have a healthier lifestyle, but i have no idea where to begin since there are so many things that prevent me from doing so.
let me say first, around 2 years ago i started putting on weight because i felt pressured by a close friend who repeatedly said that i was too skinny and it didn't look right on me. she also said that my hip bones made my love handles look huge. so i tried to gain a little more weight to fill in a little bit, but it went a little overboard. since those 2 years, i gained over 70 pounds. i was 5'4 and 115 lb. before, than i went up to 196 lb. and over the summer, i felt so bad that i barely ate for a week, i went down to 165 lb.
the same friend, who is my closest friend, always judges other people for their eating habits and other people's desires to lose weight. its impossible to even mention anything about eating healthy with her. she always says to me, like its not allowed, that she couldnt ever be friends with someone who wanted to lose weight or ate healthy like she does. she thinks that like its a crime to eat a piece of fruit and actually enjoy it. i love fruit and i enjoy salad too. i haven't eaten things like that in like 2 years because she is so judgemental about it. worst thing is, she preaches so heavily about not judging people and letting them do what they want. AND she was heavier before and hated the way she looked so she lost a bunch of weight too.
i want her to be able to understand that i don't feel happy the way i am. looking back at old pictures when i was fit and healthy, i wish i was like that again. since i gained weight, i also gained a significant amount of stretch marks, my lovehandles are like huge now, my stomach isn't toned and flat anymore. i don't even like going shopping anymore because nothing fits right or looks good on me. i get really upset when i look in the mirror because i want to see what i used to look like and i know my body will never be the same again.
i still love her to death, but food and diet is what is straining our friendship. i just need advice on ways to approach her about it and things that i can do to improve the friendship.
let me say first, around 2 years ago i started putting on weight because i felt pressured by a close friend who repeatedly said that i was too skinny and it didn't look right on me. she also said that my hip bones made my love handles look huge. so i tried to gain a little more weight to fill in a little bit, but it went a little overboard. since those 2 years, i gained over 70 pounds. i was 5'4 and 115 lb. before, than i went up to 196 lb. and over the summer, i felt so bad that i barely ate for a week, i went down to 165 lb.
the same friend, who is my closest friend, always judges other people for their eating habits and other people's desires to lose weight. its impossible to even mention anything about eating healthy with her. she always says to me, like its not allowed, that she couldnt ever be friends with someone who wanted to lose weight or ate healthy like she does. she thinks that like its a crime to eat a piece of fruit and actually enjoy it. i love fruit and i enjoy salad too. i haven't eaten things like that in like 2 years because she is so judgemental about it. worst thing is, she preaches so heavily about not judging people and letting them do what they want. AND she was heavier before and hated the way she looked so she lost a bunch of weight too.
i want her to be able to understand that i don't feel happy the way i am. looking back at old pictures when i was fit and healthy, i wish i was like that again. since i gained weight, i also gained a significant amount of stretch marks, my lovehandles are like huge now, my stomach isn't toned and flat anymore. i don't even like going shopping anymore because nothing fits right or looks good on me. i get really upset when i look in the mirror because i want to see what i used to look like and i know my body will never be the same again.
i still love her to death, but food and diet is what is straining our friendship. i just need advice on ways to approach her about it and things that i can do to improve the friendship.