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Star88
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To put it nicely, I do not like my future mil. I find her to be a manipulative, controlling, phony who is jealous that her only son is getting married and she can no longer pull his strings. I went into this relationship hoping we would a close relationship...but then I saw what she was about. She's all nicey, nicey to my face but as a woman I can see through it. I am cordial to her and respectful but after an incident a few months ago it only added stress. At my engagement party, outsiders being friends of mine saw how she acted and even commented how rude she was to me. My FH begged me to go a family function with him. I went, bc I love him and again was greeted with a wave of the hand for a hello, a turn of the back...totally cold. Later on started asking me what my wedding gown looked like. I told her and she seemed so surprised that it was strapless. I guess that's that what she likes. She kept repeating oh it strapless. Guess she's annoyed that she's not involved in any wedding plans. She then got her brother to try to talk us into changing out honeymoon bc I guess SHE doesn't like where we're going. Again manipulation. We are close to 30 years old and will go WHERE we want for our honeymoon. I was respectful and told her we would consider it. Me and my fiancée talked it over and are going where we original planned. The boiling point was when my mother called my fiancée on his cell. My cell was in my bag and I didn't answer. My fiancée is extremely close with my family. He's speaks on the phone with them etc. I saw his mother, who was standing in front of me on my side roll her eyes and walked away as soon as he said it was my mother who was on the phone. No one will disrespect my mother in front of me and it's her problem if she doesn't like that she calls him. I confronted my fiancée about it, it caused a fight. We went upstairs and his mother appeared out of nowhere trying to ease drop on us. He actually had to tell her 4 times to leave bc she kept insisting he was washing a plate the wrong way. When we went outside she put me on the spot telling me how she spoke to my mom, she made my fiancée put her on the phone when he had called her, asking to come over for a barbecue. I know it's just another phony attempt, for them to show off their house, meanwhile I'm sure when we leave they will be talking about my family left and right. I told my mother how she reacted when she called and she told me my fmil is just jealous and it's her problem not ours and to not let her come between me and my fiancée who adores me and I adore him. I do not want to attend this barbeque and if I don't go, obviously my family won't. I still have to take my grandma out for her bday so I was going to make the reservations the same day. I told my fiancée about this and he said ok but he will still attend his mom's barbecue. Of course he should since it's his family, but I nor my family are obligated to. I told my fiancée that from now on I will not talk about his mother to him or tell him anything offensive things she does and will vent elsewhere as. Is this a good way of backing out of their barbecue?