How to discuss topic of significant weight gain with your spouse & not anger/hurt them?

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I was just inspired by another question I read.

To all you married/long term couples out there:

How have you approached the issue of confronting a spouse about excessive weight gain (100 lbs in my case). I love him dearly and have no intention of leaving or anything like that, but it is affecting several aspects of our life (sex, social, activities).

I think the moment that pushed me over the edge was when we found out we was too heavy to bungee jump (by about 30 lbs, and it is something that he always wanted to do!!) he simply stated that it was impossible for someone in his condition to do it! He makes it sound like he is handicapped! He is not depressed, injured or anything like that. I have tried banning sweets, getting him to go for walks, gym membership etc. Do I just sit back, wait for a heart attack to be his aha moment?

Anyone have a similar story? Ideas? Any success stories?
 
You've got to center on the realization of the health aspects good dieting has to offer, as well as a physical exercise regimen. Make sure he knows how it has affected thos aspects you have talked about and how better off he's be.
 
Address health concerns. I haven't had much luck in getting any weight off of my husband, though. He eats crap when he's away from me. I find it really frustrating, and I really am worried about a heart attack or diabetes. I don't care how he looks. Nor do I want to go bungee jumping.
 
my uncle was dying of a heart attack a few months ago. my parents saved his life because they live out in a ranch in Mexico and my parents were just stopping by before they drove back to Houston. well my uncle is huge so it took about 6 people to carry him into the back seat of a Chevy truck. my dad had to drive really fast to the nearest city which is 2 hours away and my uncle kept screaming in pain and saying that he wanted my parents to take care of his kids. when they finally arrived in the hospital it took about 6 more people to put him into the bed and he died for a little while. we thought that since he was saved he would be taking more care of himself but he got some bad advice. a lady told him if you start eating healthy and they give you 10 years to live wouldn't you rather live 5 but eat whatever you want. i guess theres not much you can do if they don't wanna change they wont.
 
It sounds liek you have tried most of thattactics i was going to suggest. I suppose just be blunt at this point and tell him the truth. Maybe that will shock him into wanting to change. He has to want t odo it to thought or it will never work.
 
Yes. I have confronted him. Its not ok to gain weight just because you are married. People tell me its because he is comfortable. I never badger him about it. I play my part by keeping soda and JUNK out of the house and trying to cook healthier meals. He IS going to start going to the gym. He wants to lose weight. My last straw was when we had sex the other day and he couldn't go a second time..said he was too out of shape. He is about 50 pounds over weight if not more. He used to be in the army. HE is ready to lose the weight. So I am being supportive, not naggy. Communication is key. Tell him what is on your mind and use examples to back you up (like the bungee jumping thing). Tell him you are concerned for his health and your sex life.
 
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