I'm 21, a college student, no kids, and my bf is 35, has a daughter, and his own business. I love him because he is mature and sweet but when it comes to people he's known for years, specifically his babys mama and her sister, he cant seem to stand up for me even when they disrespect me because he sees it as no big deal and only will stand up for me if I talk to him about it if even then. His baby's mom is immature, starts trouble with me, and fills his 6 yr daughter's head with junk about me.
Incident #1- She tried to curse me out and disrespect me twice in front of my me and my bf and my bf said NOTHING (because he felt it was my place to speak up, not his). I told him I couldn't deal with it and he needs to stand up for me so he went to her house and had a talk with her and her bf. I was hurt because he didn't stand up for me when me and her were in front of him in the first place.
Incident #2 - His baby's mama's sister was hanging around for a bit. She started to become very flirty and when I told him about it, he told me it was my job to stop her. I told him well if I'm not around then wtf, he said he'd stop her then. She kept flirting. I finally had a firm pissed off talk with her and I was pissed because I asked my bf to tell her how he felt about her and all he said was "I just want us all to be friends" How the hell can we all be friends when she's flirting with him which is disrespectful towards me and hurts me? He claims he doen't like her but he wouldn't stand up for me. Then he supposedly texted her and told her not to come around anymore but didn't tell me he texted her until weeks later even when ive asked him about it before.
Incident #3 His baby's mama put crap in his daughters head about me making baby mamas sister not come around anymore.My bf's daughter asked me about it and seemed to get upset with me. I talked with my bf about it and my bf tells me "maybe you shouldn't do anything to make my baby's mama talk" Um, EXCUSE ME?? wtf is going on?? Like I competely spazzed on him. I told him I wouldn't have to give your baby's mama somthing to talk about but you wouldn't talk to your baby's mama's sister about stopping the flirting so I had to. I told him he was defending her, he denied defending her and I told him don't ever say disrespectful **** like that to me again. Im still pissed off about it. I don't know how much of it I can deal with.
Our relationship is fine otherwise, but when it comes to his baby's mama and her sister, and the way he acts around them, I just get very confused and angry because it's not in him to stand up for me unless I ask him to. I shouldn't have to ask my own bf to stand up for me, shouldn't he automatically do it? Especially when it's obvious some other females he knew for a very long time is disrespecting and hurting his gf??
I don't want to have a kid with him if later on down the line, my kid's head fills with crap about me because my bfs baby mama is putting it in my bfs daughters head and she tells her half sibling which would be my kid.
My bf is normally sweet but his babys mama calls about every week to come get their daughter and when their daughter comes back, sometimes she tells us something negative her mom said which stresses me out. I don't want to break up with my bf but idk how to deal with this garbage, and I live with my bf if that helps. Advice?
Incident #1- She tried to curse me out and disrespect me twice in front of my me and my bf and my bf said NOTHING (because he felt it was my place to speak up, not his). I told him I couldn't deal with it and he needs to stand up for me so he went to her house and had a talk with her and her bf. I was hurt because he didn't stand up for me when me and her were in front of him in the first place.
Incident #2 - His baby's mama's sister was hanging around for a bit. She started to become very flirty and when I told him about it, he told me it was my job to stop her. I told him well if I'm not around then wtf, he said he'd stop her then. She kept flirting. I finally had a firm pissed off talk with her and I was pissed because I asked my bf to tell her how he felt about her and all he said was "I just want us all to be friends" How the hell can we all be friends when she's flirting with him which is disrespectful towards me and hurts me? He claims he doen't like her but he wouldn't stand up for me. Then he supposedly texted her and told her not to come around anymore but didn't tell me he texted her until weeks later even when ive asked him about it before.
Incident #3 His baby's mama put crap in his daughters head about me making baby mamas sister not come around anymore.My bf's daughter asked me about it and seemed to get upset with me. I talked with my bf about it and my bf tells me "maybe you shouldn't do anything to make my baby's mama talk" Um, EXCUSE ME?? wtf is going on?? Like I competely spazzed on him. I told him I wouldn't have to give your baby's mama somthing to talk about but you wouldn't talk to your baby's mama's sister about stopping the flirting so I had to. I told him he was defending her, he denied defending her and I told him don't ever say disrespectful **** like that to me again. Im still pissed off about it. I don't know how much of it I can deal with.
Our relationship is fine otherwise, but when it comes to his baby's mama and her sister, and the way he acts around them, I just get very confused and angry because it's not in him to stand up for me unless I ask him to. I shouldn't have to ask my own bf to stand up for me, shouldn't he automatically do it? Especially when it's obvious some other females he knew for a very long time is disrespecting and hurting his gf??
I don't want to have a kid with him if later on down the line, my kid's head fills with crap about me because my bfs baby mama is putting it in my bfs daughters head and she tells her half sibling which would be my kid.
My bf is normally sweet but his babys mama calls about every week to come get their daughter and when their daughter comes back, sometimes she tells us something negative her mom said which stresses me out. I don't want to break up with my bf but idk how to deal with this garbage, and I live with my bf if that helps. Advice?