Member Six
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My SO & I have an almost perfect relationship, except he has an absolute inability to pick his battles. He throws childish tantrums over the most mundane issues, often in a passive-aggressive manner. While many arguments stem from petty issues, my feelings toward his behaviour is not petty. Each time he launches into a ridiculous argument I can't help but feel my SO is a whiny brat and I honestly lose respect for him. Now, I don't say this out loud, but how do I respectfully express how I feel when he launches his tirades?
Also, how does one argue with someone who doesn't argue well? I hate drama as much as the next person, but sometimes it's important to get the issues out there to fix a problem. When I argue, I don't place blame, I listen, I express how I feel, reasons for my feelings and suggest solutions. My SO, on the other hand, because he is often picking fights over petty issues really doesn't have reasons for the way he feels and isn't prepared to reach a solution. We reach a brick wall where I've said what I can say and he's got nothing. Is there a way I can engage him to problem-solve together?
Also, how does one argue with someone who doesn't argue well? I hate drama as much as the next person, but sometimes it's important to get the issues out there to fix a problem. When I argue, I don't place blame, I listen, I express how I feel, reasons for my feelings and suggest solutions. My SO, on the other hand, because he is often picking fights over petty issues really doesn't have reasons for the way he feels and isn't prepared to reach a solution. We reach a brick wall where I've said what I can say and he's got nothing. Is there a way I can engage him to problem-solve together?