How soon in a relationship did u discuss moving in together?

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Mavis

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ok ive been seeing this guy officially for 2 days but before this we were seeing each other just taking things slow. i met him a few months ago for the second time. the first time we saw each other but slowly, he then kinda ran off cos things were moving too fast and he had his personal problems to deal with.

so i'd say its been a couple of months this time of knowing each other again. he lives maybe 40-50 mins away and i am house hunting atm, but he was all like "would it help any if i moved in with you etc"

i kinda went along with nit but then on text later he was like i'd like a serious relationship with you etc i was just like sh!t i didn't really know what to say
he said it was moving too fast when i met him last yr and if im honest he's the one with stability money wise, i'm job hunting so he'll be supporting my lazy ass hehe, although i'm not lazy
 
ABSOLUTELY NOT!
You do NOT know this guy you only saw him sporadically teice before you started datiung him.You do NOT need or have to shack up with a guy to get to know him.YOU work and stand on your own 2 feet and see if he does the same, otherwise you may end up being the only one working supporting his lazy butt.You may find out he likes kinky porn or talks to other girls online.
You said he was moving too fast before, now he is moving fast again, wanting to move in, a serious relationship etc.
This guy has some serious insecurity issues hon,and he may have financial problems too.Step back, watch his life for a yr,if at the end of the yr you are wanting a serious relationship and to live together, then get married,no sex before that otherwise it'll confuse the issues.
 
I'd known my husband for some years before we started going out together. I only really ever said hello, I didn't know him well enough to strike up a conversation. Once we started going out, we moved in together after 3 weeks. Still together after 12 years, happily married (3 years) and not a single regret. But we were both in our 40's and it's a second marriage for us both.
Under normal circumstances, especially when you're young and your outlook on life can change so quickly, then I'd say to wait at least 6 months.
 
About 6 months. We was young but we was talking about getting our own flat when we go college and university, etc. But it obviously didn't work out like that.

You should tell him you've changed your mind and you need more time to think. There's no pressure to rush into it.
 
6 months.

So this guy first off told you it was moving too fast, but now is talking about moving in together and having a serious relationship.

Perhaps you could get a rental lease for 6 months, and if after that time you want to move in together, then the option is there.
 
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