How should I tell my mom about my boyfriend?

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Hello.I'm 16 and I'm in a tough situation. My parents don't approve of dating until after I graduate high school, however I'm in a relationship that is of 9 and a half months at the moment, and my relationship is taking it's damage because of my parents's disapproval. It has damaged my relationship so much that my boyfriend might leave me very soon...I want to tell my mom about my boyfriend and I want to try to convince her to approve and talk to my dad. I don't know how to bring it up though. My parents are very traditional and are not up-to-date with my generation. They would tell me that "I'm Asian and I need to live up to be an Asian, not an American." I am however an American though -- I was born here. And also, Asian people date also. They use education against me and tell me my grades are going to drop -- I want them to give me a chance to show them within this second semester that I can still get good grades.I don't know how to bring it up to my mom. Please help me. And please also don't tell me to tell her "just what I said" in this description.Thank you.
 
how have your grades been the past few months while you've been dating this guy? if they're going to use the education card against you, you can show them that [if your grades are still as good as they were before] you can handle having a boyfriend and getting good grades. i'd say talk to your parents individually about it. and maybe bring a close friend or family member with you who knows about your boyfriend so it won't be so hard.
 
The reality is what it is. That is not going to change. Your parents want you to concentrate on school and getting ahead. You will have boyfriends later. They are not going to change their mind so adapt the best way you can. Your boyfriend will wait for you if he really loves you. I know it is hard, but that is the reality and just work with what you have. They seem to be really in tune and know the deal about boys and things so be thankful they are looking out for you -
 
first try getting them together and talk about it. tell them that you will not let your grades suffer and that most people date at that age. when in rome do as the romans.IF they are not convinced then you just break up with him. you parents are to stubborn and wont listen to reason so theres nothing you can do.good luck
 
Sit your mom down and ask her if you can talk to her and tell her you'd like for her not to interrupt until you're done speaking. If you approach her maturely she will take you seriously. Tell her that you have been seeing this boy for quite a while and you want them to know about it because you don't want to do it around their backs. Tell her about your boy and stuff so she can get sort of an ideal of him. Tell her that you really like him and that just because you have a boyfriend doesn't mean it's going to affect your marks in school. Again, just speak maturely and hopefully everything goes good!
 
ok, well relationship of 9 months without telling parents, pretty impresive, i can understand though why your boyfreind is upset by this. First in your defense you can explain to them that you have been dating for so long and it hasn't affected your schoolwork(but if it has, don't bring it up) And also say that you do in fact live in America. Go up to your mom when your alone, and just be like, there is something i think i should share with you, and i just want you to listen and hear me out. Tell her about your boyfreind and say stuff like he really cares about you, and you have been seeing each other for so long, but that might not be a great argument cause then that mean you've been going behind her back, but just be like i was just doing it because i really liked him and i figured you wouldn't really approve of me dating because that is what you always say. Apologize, and be like, i understand if i am in trouble for this but i hope you at least let me continue on seeing him and get to meet him and give him a chance, he's a great guy. Explain stuff like that to her, then talk to her about your dad. good luck
 
Hey, I'm almost in the exact same situation...well okay not really but I know how tough it is. Luckily, I have one parent who is understanding(divorced). But my boyfriend is talking it a bit hard, he really misses me when I'm at my Dad's. Since I haven't solved my problem, I can't offer a solution, but I wanted to let you know that you aren't alone, and that I'm rooting for you. I'd start with your mom. Just tell her how much you really like this bot, maybe how much he helps you with homework sometimes(that way grades can be an excuse for some together time at first). If she sees how much you like him, and really are going to be mature about it, she might support you. Check out any answers I might get to my question, which is similar: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjAHcyKsv6eTqfTJuLdNyfvsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090208194010AAGA7oC
 
Get good result and tell you mom about your result and at the same time you better tell here about bf ok good luck
 
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