Okay, here's the situation.. So I have liked this guy I work with for a few months now. This guy happens to be a low level 'shift leader' which technically makes him one of my bosses. However, company relations and whatnot are allowed (two more people I work with are dating their 'superiors'.) Well, I was talking to my friend at work and I mentioned that I like the guy. The loudmouth at my job overheard, and now essentially everyone knows. So I figured rather than have the guy I like in question hear it from everyone else (apparently someone was trying to 'hook us up' by asking him out for me behind my back?!? All I said was I thought the guy was cute and intellectually attractive!! If I was going to ask him out, I'd want to do so myself, not have someone else do it for me!) so I decided to tell him myself. Better to know than not know, right?
Well I don't have his phone number, and even if I did, I wouldn't be able to call him while he's not at work. So I decided to send a mature message to him from Facebook to tell him what happened so he can hear my version of it. I don't want him to think I'm a creeper.. seriously, there are people at my job who will GROSSLY exaggerate the truth.
Anyway, I essentially told him what happened. I was talking with a girl, I said I thought he was cute and intellectually attractive, someone overheard, and it spread. I told him I apologize if it made him uncomfortable (would a man find this uncomfortable???), and if he doesn't feel the same, then I said at least consider it a flattering remark and left it at that.
Really, I'm fine if he doesn't like me back.. I'm not trying to bother anyone here. But what I'm a little concerned over is that I never got a message back. No rejection, no nothing. I can only assume he doesn't feel the same way (again, I'm fine with this), but to ease the tension, I kind of wish he would say SOMETHING. It wouldn't be so bad if we didn't work together a lot.. now I'm just not sure how to approach the situation.
Was I wrong to tell him how I felt? I just wanted to control the situation myself rather than have gossipers control it for me. I didn't think it would be this awkward.. I thought I presented myself casually and disarmingly.
Oh yeah, and also, he is a shy guy... anyone have any advice? We work together either tomorrow or the day after so I'd like to know how I should behave without making the situation worse.
Oh right, sorry, forgot to mention. He definitely has checked his FB, he updated his status since I sent the message lol
Well I don't have his phone number, and even if I did, I wouldn't be able to call him while he's not at work. So I decided to send a mature message to him from Facebook to tell him what happened so he can hear my version of it. I don't want him to think I'm a creeper.. seriously, there are people at my job who will GROSSLY exaggerate the truth.
Anyway, I essentially told him what happened. I was talking with a girl, I said I thought he was cute and intellectually attractive, someone overheard, and it spread. I told him I apologize if it made him uncomfortable (would a man find this uncomfortable???), and if he doesn't feel the same, then I said at least consider it a flattering remark and left it at that.
Really, I'm fine if he doesn't like me back.. I'm not trying to bother anyone here. But what I'm a little concerned over is that I never got a message back. No rejection, no nothing. I can only assume he doesn't feel the same way (again, I'm fine with this), but to ease the tension, I kind of wish he would say SOMETHING. It wouldn't be so bad if we didn't work together a lot.. now I'm just not sure how to approach the situation.
Was I wrong to tell him how I felt? I just wanted to control the situation myself rather than have gossipers control it for me. I didn't think it would be this awkward.. I thought I presented myself casually and disarmingly.
Oh yeah, and also, he is a shy guy... anyone have any advice? We work together either tomorrow or the day after so I'd like to know how I should behave without making the situation worse.
Oh right, sorry, forgot to mention. He definitely has checked his FB, he updated his status since I sent the message lol