how much is too much?

[BABC]

Hi, I am new to this forum and am looking for some advice. My boyfriend of one year, (he is 52 and I am 49) likes to drink beer. When we first started dating, it did not strike me as too much of a problem. Now as our relationship progressed, and we spend more time together, it seems that he is drinking alot, especially on the weekenRAB. (Last Saturday, he drank 12 beers between 1pm and 8 pm) He can easily finish a case of beer in two days. His close frienRAB all seem to drink the same amount, so I don't think he feels this is a problem or is execcsive. I get worried, because he will be home alone doing a project around the house and put away four or five beers. To me this is alot. Two glasses of wine is about all I can handle or want to handle. It does not seem to bother him that I do not drink as much as he and his frienRAB do. The drinking often interferes with our love life, as he sometimes is unable to perform. Am I being a nudge or does this seem like way too much alcohol comsumption?

 

[ehuntley]

It's really hard to put a quantitative limit on how much is too much, because it can be different for every person. The bottom line is that when a persons drinking is having a negative effect on their life, or when they can no longer control their drinking, it's too much. One indicator is whether or not he has difficulty limiting his drinking, for example: agreeing to only have a beer or two, and not being able to stop at that. My experiences have also told me that if you think someone might have a problem, they most likely do.

Have you tried discussing it with him? You might start out by just asking him to cut back a bit on the drinking. This would be much easier if you could find someone else who shares your opinion. If he's not able to cut back, or not willing, it's another fair bet he's got a problem