How do you respond to people who ask you how you are doing?

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I;m sick of people telling me that I don't "look" sick. When people ask me how i am feeling I have no idea what to tell them. They don't understand that this illness is CHRONIC meaning it does not go away. I have such a hard time being around people because inside i feel like complete crap but I don't want to tell everyone that because no one wants to hear people complain all the time. And usually I just tell them, "oh I'm fine, thanks" and that really makes me cringe because I am flat out lying. I do not feel fine. I feel horrible. And it upsets me because they think I am not ill when infact I am. Im just fed up with this disease.
 
i know where you are coming from............i have three hidden medical things and they are major in my life, but like you i say fine or im ok and then change the subject, people dont care and the ones that do dont understand, its like well cant you jsut get mdication and then you will be fine lol.if only meRAB worked or doctors had a clue lol
anyway we all feel the same, go and get physcial with something and let go the frustration!!!
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I agree with nessie. No one really cares or can't understand unless they've been there. Might as well go ahead and say "Just fine." In fact, that is one of the things I admired about my grandfather. No matter what, he was "just fine" while on the other hand, my grandmother complained every day, all day. Good reason for these boarRAB! We can discuss our ailments without feeling guilty of complaining all the time because we understand each other! People don't get "chronic" either. Like you said, it ain't gonna go away. For long anyway.

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When I had my nissan fundo surgery 2 months ago (which did not work) my pastor at my church told everyone at my church i was in hospital for surgery. SO when I came back to Church one sunday everyone was askin me if i was ok, how was i doing, ect. I mean im thankful for their concern but it really aggrivated me cause now they ask me every week, and I am not any better at all. I don't wanna have to explain that every time I see them. They don't understand, and talking about it to them aint gonna change the fact that I feel like crap. So I just tell them I'm fine, which I am not.
 
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