I'm interested in opinions from all aspects, psychological, social, religious.
I'm a good person, I volunteer, I'm a grad student, good family, good friends. The only problem is I have one grudge. One grudge from my 24 years of life, a grudge that is a year and a half old, where someone I trusted hurt me more than everyone else combined. I won't say they ruined my life, that's just dramatic, but greatly decreased the quality and my inner peace.
Usually I'm ok, but whenever it comes to mind, I feel the need to exact a horrible revenge, to make them feel like I felt, to ruin them in the EXACT same manner they ruined me.
It comes in waves and then subsides, I don't want to be like this. I want to get over it. I want to forgive because it's more Godly. But I can't let it go.
Suggestions?
I'm a good person, I volunteer, I'm a grad student, good family, good friends. The only problem is I have one grudge. One grudge from my 24 years of life, a grudge that is a year and a half old, where someone I trusted hurt me more than everyone else combined. I won't say they ruined my life, that's just dramatic, but greatly decreased the quality and my inner peace.
Usually I'm ok, but whenever it comes to mind, I feel the need to exact a horrible revenge, to make them feel like I felt, to ruin them in the EXACT same manner they ruined me.
It comes in waves and then subsides, I don't want to be like this. I want to get over it. I want to forgive because it's more Godly. But I can't let it go.
Suggestions?