its hard for me to see the lines of boundary. it feels like i am not aware of them myself. but i know when my has been crossed.
for example i just wrote my boyfriend (well now ex boyfriend) a very long text saying no more and good bye because i am hurting so bad.
i dont know what he is doing (i know sometimes uneducated people try to manipulate others for emtoional security) but for a while it was ok. but then he really made me feel like worthless nothing? so i told him off.
i m not sure what hes going to say or do back. i want him to "change" and give all his affection to me now.
but how wul di have normally done this so to corral the relationship in the right direction the whole way? i feel like i should have known better and not have felt decieved even though i WAS indeed hurting by some of the things he did. he had certain boundaries too. but it appears that they intersected strangly.
what should i have done in this situation?
for example i just wrote my boyfriend (well now ex boyfriend) a very long text saying no more and good bye because i am hurting so bad.
i dont know what he is doing (i know sometimes uneducated people try to manipulate others for emtoional security) but for a while it was ok. but then he really made me feel like worthless nothing? so i told him off.
i m not sure what hes going to say or do back. i want him to "change" and give all his affection to me now.
but how wul di have normally done this so to corral the relationship in the right direction the whole way? i feel like i should have known better and not have felt decieved even though i WAS indeed hurting by some of the things he did. he had certain boundaries too. but it appears that they intersected strangly.
what should i have done in this situation?