I am in a common law relationship for 10 years with a one year old. I am in a province where there are cutbacks in my line of work so I am only working casual, so I don't have a reliable source of income. My spouse has had 6 jobs in the past year, I don't even know how many since I have known him. Half of them he has quit, the other ones he was fired.
We have a very volatile relationship. We don't communicate, we just fight. He is 36 years old and always puts his friends first, ahead of his family. He spent his sons first birthday out with his friends and doing whatever it is that they do. I have never spent time with his friends and he has never brought his friends to our place.
I have been hit, kicked, punched on numerous occasions. We will fight, he says all I do is nag about how I need someone who is reliable and who wants to support the family. There is a lot of name calling, both ways now.
In 10 years he has never saved one penny. Not one. He always says it will get better. If he has extra money more often than not it will go to cigarettes or time with his friends.
I have been sleeping on the couch for 3 months now. We have not spent 'couple' time in almost 2 years.
I try to communicate with him how I feel yet every conversation always turns into a fight. He doesn't hear me whatsoever.
I am thinking about moving back to the city I grew up in where I can look for full time work and have my family around. When I mention this he freaks out and says that he will make my life a living hell.
What should I do?
We have a very volatile relationship. We don't communicate, we just fight. He is 36 years old and always puts his friends first, ahead of his family. He spent his sons first birthday out with his friends and doing whatever it is that they do. I have never spent time with his friends and he has never brought his friends to our place.
I have been hit, kicked, punched on numerous occasions. We will fight, he says all I do is nag about how I need someone who is reliable and who wants to support the family. There is a lot of name calling, both ways now.
In 10 years he has never saved one penny. Not one. He always says it will get better. If he has extra money more often than not it will go to cigarettes or time with his friends.
I have been sleeping on the couch for 3 months now. We have not spent 'couple' time in almost 2 years.
I try to communicate with him how I feel yet every conversation always turns into a fight. He doesn't hear me whatsoever.
I am thinking about moving back to the city I grew up in where I can look for full time work and have my family around. When I mention this he freaks out and says that he will make my life a living hell.
What should I do?