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Amy M
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My 4 year old stepson has every right to be whining and crying all the time, so I don't blame him. I however am having the hardest time coping and I don't know what to do. He is the most unhappy miserable little boy and it's horribly sad. My husband and I are doing everything we can for him, so please no parenting advice. He's starting therapy, but the real problem is at his mother's house. We have him about 50% of the time and he cries for her nearly the whole time. Nothing we do makes him happy. An attorney has already told us that we can't do anything legally, nothing she's doing consitutes abuse or neglect. I can't cope with him waking us up 3-4 times a night. I can't cope with the constant whining and crying. I have no where else to go when he's here and although I'm sympathetic to his problems I just can't take it anymore. Please help. I have an ulcer from this already (nonH.Pylori) and I have hyperacussis, so he honestly hurts my ears all the time. Please help.
Again, please what I need are tips on how to cope, not parenting advice. I'm not trying to be selfish, I'm just on the verge of a nervous breakdown I think.
I should also mention that he wants nothing from me. I've been with him since he was 2 and he has no feelings for me either way, I think it's an attachment disorder. He pushes me away so I don't force myself on him. PLEASE no parenting advice, we are doing so much already, positive reinforcement, consistency, praise, fun things and activities......I NEED COPING SKILLS
One more thing. NOTHING has changed in the past 2 years. Not the custody schedule, not his parents relationships, no new siblings. He has just been getting worse over time as he gains awareness of himself.
His mother can't stand the thought of being with him more than she has to be so that's not an option. She won't give us any more custody either. This is the root of his problem and she is more worried about her husband, career and social life than she is about him.
Stormy, obviously you need to improve your reading comprehension. I've been with this child since he was 2. This problem is much more recent than this. When I married his father this was NOT happening. Go spread your ignorance somewhere else.
Again, please what I need are tips on how to cope, not parenting advice. I'm not trying to be selfish, I'm just on the verge of a nervous breakdown I think.
I should also mention that he wants nothing from me. I've been with him since he was 2 and he has no feelings for me either way, I think it's an attachment disorder. He pushes me away so I don't force myself on him. PLEASE no parenting advice, we are doing so much already, positive reinforcement, consistency, praise, fun things and activities......I NEED COPING SKILLS
One more thing. NOTHING has changed in the past 2 years. Not the custody schedule, not his parents relationships, no new siblings. He has just been getting worse over time as he gains awareness of himself.
His mother can't stand the thought of being with him more than she has to be so that's not an option. She won't give us any more custody either. This is the root of his problem and she is more worried about her husband, career and social life than she is about him.
Stormy, obviously you need to improve your reading comprehension. I've been with this child since he was 2. This problem is much more recent than this. When I married his father this was NOT happening. Go spread your ignorance somewhere else.