Mollie Smith
New member
Okay, so I am 14 and my boyfriend is 16. I really like him and he likes me. I am a freshman is high school, he is a junior. So my parents were out of town and he came over kinda late. I was really nervous about his timing because I don't think I'm ready for sex. When I was young I was sexually abused but i never told him. So when he came over, I was nervous because he has a history of pressing me into sex. I am a virgin, he isn't. So we were on my bed and I was freaking being so close to him and he put his arm around me and stuff. I jumped a little, because I guess I still have to get over the sexually abuse stuff because I've been ignoring it. So we were just light kissing on my bed and he started to unbutton my shirt and we weren't even making out really, so I flipped out and was all shocked. I apologized and we tried again and again he tried the shirt thing so I pushed his hands away but he thought I was kidding. So he got super aggressive and close and I was scared out of my mind so I broke down and started crying. He stopped and tried to comfort me but I was still scared of him a little. He was confused, and I know I Have to tell him about the abuse. But when I tell him to stop, not just this time but any time he doesn't take me seriously. How do I tell him I'm scared, I know 14 is young for all this but hes my first serious boyfriend and I am trying really hard to impress him because hes so much older. So how do I tell him to slow way down and stop scaring me without him breaking up with me? (Sorry its so long, thanks guys!)