i am really scared for her, she is abandoning my 17 and 13 year old brothers and letting them do as they please. she doesn't come home for days and falls asleep behind the wheel because she won't leave her suppliers house until she comes down from being high for days until they run out. she doesn't have a job, or a spouse. She is in an intimate relationship with the guy that supplies the meth to her, she was addicted before but got very angry at me and my brother for accusing her and went on about how she never gets to take a break and that we're just mad because she's with her boyfriend. my 17 year old brother dropped out of high school and is working just to have his paychecks go to pay for family needs. she's also really suicidal and is a cutter. she has disfigured her arms so bad they look like surgery scars. me and my mom have a really good friendship, and are definitely more friends than parent-daughter. i never criticize her for her behavior and she doesn't criticize me. the boyfriend/supplier is mentally ill and abusive to her but she just keeps going back. i want to just call the police on him because he is such an ass and he is ruining my mom's life but i dont want her to get busted and she would be furious if she found out if i did. i would also like to hold an intervention but her family are very strict mormons and i'm afraid they would disown her. to complicate things further i have two siblings that she adopted out to her sister and i am afraid she would never be able to see them again.. they aren't forgiving people, even if she quit i don't think it would matter. they are her entire support system. her entire life, she doesn't have any friends or anything just us kids, her family and her boyfriend. i'm afraid that by trying to help it will only make things much worse, if she doesn't have a support system and i'm afraid she'll just do it and i can't stand the thought of losing my mom. especially if my actions made the situation that caused her to feel like she needed to. my brother and i want to talk to her but we know she is just going to get very upset and deny it and blame us for things going wrong in her life because we have been through this before. how can i make her hear that i'm terrified for her life and her relationships? how can i persuade her stop?
she has been in therapy for years but doesn't believe that it works. she is still attending, but it doesn't seem to help
she has been in therapy for years but doesn't believe that it works. she is still attending, but it doesn't seem to help