Samantha May
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My husband and I are expecting our first child in a few months. We are only on one income right now and I probably won't be going back to work until after the baby is born. To be quite honest, I am not fond of my in-laws at all, but am civil and polite when I see them of course. They are obsessed with "things" and talking about their house with the "things" they have in it non-stop. Not sure if they grew up poor or without much, which is how I rationalize it, as I've noticed their siblings are the same way as them. His parents like to claim that they are "can't afford things" like they told their son they couldn't afford to take him out for his bday dinner last minute, yet were out shopping at the mall and outlets at least 2x a week the week before and they could afford to a buy a $800 dollar dress for our wedding, which they didn't forget to drop the price tag when talking about it. I do not know anyone's financial situation, nor do I ask, nor do I ask how much things cost and hate when people try to feed me crap to eat. My husband now works a ton of overtime each week and one of my relatives has helped in the past a little money wise. We are also looking for a bigger place, so of course our expenses are going to increase, so we are budgeting. The baby is my number 1 concern, so buying the baby needed stuff is important, not buying stuff for us.
At least 7 months ago, my husband mentioned getting a flat screen TV, and IMO unneeded and unnecessory, so around that time his parents told him they would buy us one. I don't even think this was discussed with me and I told him flat out we don't need it and the TV I currently had was just fine. That went in one ear and out the other. He told me how his parents were def. getting it, so we went ahead and bought a TV stand, which I later found out his parents paid for, which was nice. The TV was never spoken about again and this TV stand has been sitting in his parents garage since then. I even told him how I think we should return it especially with a baby on the way, we do NOT need a new TV right now and any $ should be put towards the baby.
Today, his parents came out of nowhere and told us they are going to get us the TV this week. I told them that they could really wait bc this wasn't something we needed right now, but his dad said no he wants to get it. I guess their money problems that they had a week ago are now gone lol. I've been thinking about it, and really, really do not want this TV, nor do I think it's a sensible gift but I don't want to sound ungrateful. Instead, perhaps giving that $ to their son which could help with our bills or putting it towards buying the baby stuff would make a lot more sense. Plus, we would still need to either sell, which could take weeks, or find a place to store our current TV and there is NO room here. I feel like the only reason they are doing this to begin with is because THEY are into fancy electronics and this is what they would want. So, how do I politely decline this gift or talk my husband into decling it for us?
At least 7 months ago, my husband mentioned getting a flat screen TV, and IMO unneeded and unnecessory, so around that time his parents told him they would buy us one. I don't even think this was discussed with me and I told him flat out we don't need it and the TV I currently had was just fine. That went in one ear and out the other. He told me how his parents were def. getting it, so we went ahead and bought a TV stand, which I later found out his parents paid for, which was nice. The TV was never spoken about again and this TV stand has been sitting in his parents garage since then. I even told him how I think we should return it especially with a baby on the way, we do NOT need a new TV right now and any $ should be put towards the baby.
Today, his parents came out of nowhere and told us they are going to get us the TV this week. I told them that they could really wait bc this wasn't something we needed right now, but his dad said no he wants to get it. I guess their money problems that they had a week ago are now gone lol. I've been thinking about it, and really, really do not want this TV, nor do I think it's a sensible gift but I don't want to sound ungrateful. Instead, perhaps giving that $ to their son which could help with our bills or putting it towards buying the baby stuff would make a lot more sense. Plus, we would still need to either sell, which could take weeks, or find a place to store our current TV and there is NO room here. I feel like the only reason they are doing this to begin with is because THEY are into fancy electronics and this is what they would want. So, how do I politely decline this gift or talk my husband into decling it for us?