How do i make it not weird?

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Ok so my best friend is basically a man whore and hooked up with this girl, and i really could have cared less about the whole situation. well anyway she lives just far enough away to where she is never really around so while she was visiting him. he totally blew her off while she was here so naturally i just stepped in and hung out with her and we had a really good time. now she calls me everyday we havent done anything sexual and he has since ruined anything that was or could be between them. and i know through a friend that she now has feelings for me but dosnt want anything that happens between us to ruin my friendship with my buddy. so what can i do to make her more comfortable about the situation.

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its not really a long distance thing cuz i go back home to where she lives/where im from almost every week
 
it would be very difficult to make things not wierd, because its hard to keep both your friend and her at the same time... its usually one or the other, but not both. but if he really is like that, and he goes from girl - girl like that then he might not care as much because she's just another girl. but still, at the very least it would weaken your friendship. I'd try to talk to him and bring her up and say she's nice and whatnot, and see what he says about her and if its good stuff then he'll be mad at you for taking his ex, or if its bad stuff he would not respect you as much for dating her. If he's anything like me, he can understand you're situation and respect it. I would not be mad and it wouldn't affect my freindship because if she's happier with my friend and he's happier with him then thats alright, because i would be done with her and she would all be in the past and i would just continue going from girl to girl. But, if i still liked her and had feelings for her it would turn out really bad. I'd say its risky, but make sure you talk to him first, and if it gets right down to it, its him or her.
 
ask your friend if its ok and by the sounds of it he will be fine with it. then tell the girl that hes cool with it and she doesnt need to worry. if you do get together try not to mention your friend too much at the begining
good luck :)
 
Let your boy know that he had blown it with the girl when he blew her off during her visit. Try to bring it up casually. See what his reaction is. If it's negative like, "Oh f*ck her man! i don't care about her!" Then that's when you slyly ask him "Then would it be ok if I got with her since you don't want her?" If he says no, debate it with him letting him know he didn't want her. It's like saying "I don't want her but no one else can either." If that's his attitude let him know as a friend, he's wrong. If he continues with his attitude then tell him flat out that you're interested in her and that you came to him first since he had hooked up with her, but with his attitude, you're just gonna go ahead and see her anyway. If he doesn't like it, well too bad. That's my view on things. I'm straight forward with my boys so that's my answer to the b*tchazzness.
 
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