Easy Breezy
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I met this great guy at a bad time a few months ago. I went through a breakup 2 months prior. Though it didn't last long (2-3 months), I went through this phase of being lost and insecure. (And I'm normally one who's happy and confident). At that point, I swore off guys completely and went to an event. I was inspired/happy and believed in what I deserved in a man. Apparently, another guest had his eye on me that night and wanted to meet me. He was a COMPLETE gentleman - everything I always believed how I guy should act. I'm usually one who get uncomfortable easily w. guys hitting on me but I got along w. this guy so naturally...like I've known him for years. He showed great signs of interest, introduced me to his friends/family there, spent the rest of the night hanging out w. me and by the end of the night, politely asked for my number and when I left, had texted me his intentions of wanting to hang out.
2.5 weeks later we went out to eat - good conversation although his questions were more like e-harmony: if i get along w co-workers, anger issues, favorite movies, living conditions...and he shared all this kind of information about himself as well. As I said, at that time i wasn't the best of me. I was myself but not my best. I was still lost, trying to pick myself up fr. what I had gone through. Though we had a good time, we never really hung out after that. He's a shy man (not quiet but more reserved than the average guy); shy guys are picky and easily take things for the worse. I knew he was shy but if a man was ready, there would be no excuses, right? I may have given him the vibe I didn't want anything bc i was soo guarded fr. the last experience. Or maybe he simply wasn't into me. I texted him a week after hanging out but his timing of responses just made me believe it wasn't worth it/gut feeling not to bother so I deleted his number. Just a waste. I moved on fr. it and within the next months, healed, became a better person and discovered a new-found love for myself. Around November, I started thinking about him again...i can't forget about this guy because of the respect he treated me with...I had this weird desire to want another chance w. him. I'm a better person now and I wanted him to see that. I prayed over and over for that chance and that I would take any opportunity while staying true to myself. Today, the impossible happened. Out of the blue, I got a text fr. him saying, "merry xmas/happy new year. see you soon" Miracles do happen. (i recognized his # bc of his different area code). Thing is, I think it was sent to me on accident and was supposed to be for his friends/family :/ It was the opportunity i was praying for so I later responded and wished him "merry xmas/happy new year" back and left it at that. I was ready for my real answer (good or bad)....and he never texted anything afterwards. I feel awful. He probably thinks I'm a stalker who responded back when he didn't even mean to send me that message. It's good that I know but I am disappointed...how do I cope? Encouragement, please?
Also: they say if a guy disappears after the first date, he's just not that into you. He's a shy guy but if he had the balls to ask my number and ask me out then....... :/
2.5 weeks later we went out to eat - good conversation although his questions were more like e-harmony: if i get along w co-workers, anger issues, favorite movies, living conditions...and he shared all this kind of information about himself as well. As I said, at that time i wasn't the best of me. I was myself but not my best. I was still lost, trying to pick myself up fr. what I had gone through. Though we had a good time, we never really hung out after that. He's a shy man (not quiet but more reserved than the average guy); shy guys are picky and easily take things for the worse. I knew he was shy but if a man was ready, there would be no excuses, right? I may have given him the vibe I didn't want anything bc i was soo guarded fr. the last experience. Or maybe he simply wasn't into me. I texted him a week after hanging out but his timing of responses just made me believe it wasn't worth it/gut feeling not to bother so I deleted his number. Just a waste. I moved on fr. it and within the next months, healed, became a better person and discovered a new-found love for myself. Around November, I started thinking about him again...i can't forget about this guy because of the respect he treated me with...I had this weird desire to want another chance w. him. I'm a better person now and I wanted him to see that. I prayed over and over for that chance and that I would take any opportunity while staying true to myself. Today, the impossible happened. Out of the blue, I got a text fr. him saying, "merry xmas/happy new year. see you soon" Miracles do happen. (i recognized his # bc of his different area code). Thing is, I think it was sent to me on accident and was supposed to be for his friends/family :/ It was the opportunity i was praying for so I later responded and wished him "merry xmas/happy new year" back and left it at that. I was ready for my real answer (good or bad)....and he never texted anything afterwards. I feel awful. He probably thinks I'm a stalker who responded back when he didn't even mean to send me that message. It's good that I know but I am disappointed...how do I cope? Encouragement, please?
Also: they say if a guy disappears after the first date, he's just not that into you. He's a shy guy but if he had the balls to ask my number and ask me out then....... :/