My boyfriend of 3.5 years has gotten a little...soft. He's gained maybe 15lbs over the past 2 or 3 years, and has gone from running a couple miles a day to running a couple of miles every few months. He's big into video games and reading, but he was always so athletic and fit before we started dating and in the early days of our relationship. For a year or so, I've noticed that his physique has been declining quite a lot--going from a nice, flat stomach to having a gut and man-boobs.
I've tried getting him to exercise with me, but he refuses most of the time. I've tried only cooking healthy things with smaller portions, but then he buys hotdogs and loads everything with cheese, etc. I've tried being a little more blunt about wanting him to exercise and eat lower-calorie foods, but he gets offended and eats more/does less to spite me. I've tried pointing out articles in fitness magazines about healthy weight-loss. I got him WiiFit for Christmas and he refuses to use it. I've tried ignoring his weight and hoping that he will motivate himself.
He complains *all* the time about his body, and how much he wishes he were toned/thinner/etc., so I know that he WANTS to change, but he *refuses* to do anything about it. He's lazy, and he feels secure enough in our relationship that he is okay with 'letting himself go'. I wouldn't mind so much, but I am concerned about what effects this will have on his health down the road (he has a familial history of obesity, cardiovascular disease and heart attack), and I know how much it bothers him to be overweight.
I have never had issues with weight, so I have no personal experience with losing weight and don't know how to motivate someone to do so. We're in our 20s, so I feel like *now* is the time he should start being healthier so it's easier for him to stay healthy later.
I've tried getting him to exercise with me, but he refuses most of the time. I've tried only cooking healthy things with smaller portions, but then he buys hotdogs and loads everything with cheese, etc. I've tried being a little more blunt about wanting him to exercise and eat lower-calorie foods, but he gets offended and eats more/does less to spite me. I've tried pointing out articles in fitness magazines about healthy weight-loss. I got him WiiFit for Christmas and he refuses to use it. I've tried ignoring his weight and hoping that he will motivate himself.
He complains *all* the time about his body, and how much he wishes he were toned/thinner/etc., so I know that he WANTS to change, but he *refuses* to do anything about it. He's lazy, and he feels secure enough in our relationship that he is okay with 'letting himself go'. I wouldn't mind so much, but I am concerned about what effects this will have on his health down the road (he has a familial history of obesity, cardiovascular disease and heart attack), and I know how much it bothers him to be overweight.
I have never had issues with weight, so I have no personal experience with losing weight and don't know how to motivate someone to do so. We're in our 20s, so I feel like *now* is the time he should start being healthier so it's easier for him to stay healthy later.