How do I get through to my husband I am not happy with our sex life?

[alwayz_uncontent]

My husband and i have been together for 9 years , and we were married this past October. In the past he has left me twice for another woman ,and i have forgiven him both times ,and taken him back. I am a believer in forgive ,and forget ,and to be honest I really do love him. The problem is he wont listen to me when i voice a problem in our relationship no matter what it is. He either blames me for the problem ,or just ignores me ,and leaves the house. For instance this morning he woke me up for sex ,by rubbing my breasts ,and grabbing between my legs. Sorry if too much info. I told him I couldnt get in the mood this way ,and suggested maybe he could be a little more romantic. I told him it wasnt either of our faults ,that we just needed to try something new maybe. In response he got mad ,and got out of bed. I have tried before to talk to him about this ,but it always ends up the same way. Then he leaves the house ,and Im left to blame myself all day until he gets home ,and then tell him im sorry ,and make things all better. I dont know how to talk to him to get him to listen . Im sure by telling him that he doesnt turn me on at times ,does huert his ego ,but I didnt blame him . I said it was something we both needed to work on. When we were first together he was romantic...flowers, kissing , hugging etc ,but now its like lets get this over with I have places to go. I cant be the only woman that needs a little more then this ??? I really dont know how to fix this between us ,and its not just with our love life ,he is this way with any problem we have. He ignores it ,or me like its going to go away on its own. I have suggested councelling ,but he wont hear of it. Says he dont need a shrink telling him how to live his life. We have a good marriage ,and a beautiful daughter together ,but just times like this I am at a loss. Sorry this is so long . Can anyone tell me if they experience this ?? and if so can you give me any suggestions on how to talk to him ?? I am a good wife. I am at home all day with our daughter ,I cook , I clean ,and i make sure his meals are waiting when he gets home. I will admit I am afraid he will leave again ,or find someone else to fulfill his needs if i dont ,so most of the time I give in whether i am in the mood or not . I know this is wrong ,but I am at a loss of what to do .

 

[BabeHeart]

YOU need counseling (seriously). If he won't go, fine. You're self esteem is so damaged that you need to talk to someone who can help you learn how to love yourself, and who can help you with ways to cope with your marriage if you still choose to do so once you learn you don't don't have to take krap from anyone, and that being single isn't all that bad (it can beat being in a bad relationship).

I'm not saying you should leave your man, but you need to put yourself in an emotional place where you would be strong enough to do so, if that's what you chose. Right now you're afraid to be alone and making yourself miserable trying to kowtow to his wishes so he doesn't leave...he's got no respect for you and you've got no respect for yourself.

I hope you turn your life around dear...it's too short to waste fearing abandonment by someone you probably shouldn't be with in the first place.