Jane Sandiago
New member
I've recently confronted the fact that I am turned on by a man sexually dominating me and the whole idea of being a 'slave'.. being owned. I guess, to an extent, my fantasies do go into a BDSM context.
But I'm not happy with this at all. I want to get rid of these desires as quick as possible. It's been a conflict I've dealt with for a long time. My desires have escalated and grown for a while now. Although in bed, I'm submissive..outside of it, I'm completely different. I'm a very strong, dominant person. I dislike men to almost no end. My attitudes towards them would be characterized as 'extremely feminist'. I don't believe that women are 'naturally submissive'. I'm convinced that power dynamics/behavior between men and women are not biological, but a result of social constructions throughout history. Anyhow, I'm not posting to be convinced of otherwise.
I don't dispute either that they're perfectly normal desires. I'm just not comfortable with them period.I believe I would be happier and stronger without them.
I just want to know...are any really good approaches I can take towards destroying these desires? Does anyone know if psychotherapists can help people (who explicitly don't want them) get rid of their bdsm/sub/dom side? any ideas that would totally help me get rid of this?
But I'm not happy with this at all. I want to get rid of these desires as quick as possible. It's been a conflict I've dealt with for a long time. My desires have escalated and grown for a while now. Although in bed, I'm submissive..outside of it, I'm completely different. I'm a very strong, dominant person. I dislike men to almost no end. My attitudes towards them would be characterized as 'extremely feminist'. I don't believe that women are 'naturally submissive'. I'm convinced that power dynamics/behavior between men and women are not biological, but a result of social constructions throughout history. Anyhow, I'm not posting to be convinced of otherwise.
I don't dispute either that they're perfectly normal desires. I'm just not comfortable with them period.I believe I would be happier and stronger without them.
I just want to know...are any really good approaches I can take towards destroying these desires? Does anyone know if psychotherapists can help people (who explicitly don't want them) get rid of their bdsm/sub/dom side? any ideas that would totally help me get rid of this?