curious guy
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i am 21 years old and she is 20. we have a son of 8 months together (yes, we had a child). recently this year we have started going back to church and have mutually decided not to have sex again before marriage (which i hope is soon to be honest). i am still saving to propose and set a wedding date. but my problem doesnt only lie in the fact that we are not having intercourse.
it is hard to be intimate with her. even more so now that we have decided to hold off on sex. she is a very flinchy person, if that makes any sence. i try to caress her face and she flinches like crazy. she says she cant breathe when something is too close to her face.. (this goes with everything. she holds her breath when kissing me, she doesnt like the shower water in her face directly, i cant wave my hand withing a foot of her face without her getting anxious and "flinchy"). Same thing happens when i try to gently brush my fingertip on his lips.
I try to caress her back or skin and she says i do it too softly, and it tickles too much (she usually scratches wherever i just touched as it tingles too much). We used to lay down and hug at night but she doesnt anymore as we sleep with our son on the bed and she doesnt like to face away from him.
i am not trying to have sex or anything, i just want us to maintain a romantic life. a passionate kiss every now and then. hold me and tell me you love me. snuggle. anything. but it is very rare if we ever do any of these things. i dont know if its that shes not in the mood or what but id like a more romantic life with her. how do i go about getting her to hold me or caress me. make me feel loved. how do i get her to want the same. i feel like i do all the trying and i dont see any results. should i just speed up the proposal, lol... any suggestions on how to be intimate with someone without having sex and how to make her want to be intimate.
it is hard to be intimate with her. even more so now that we have decided to hold off on sex. she is a very flinchy person, if that makes any sence. i try to caress her face and she flinches like crazy. she says she cant breathe when something is too close to her face.. (this goes with everything. she holds her breath when kissing me, she doesnt like the shower water in her face directly, i cant wave my hand withing a foot of her face without her getting anxious and "flinchy"). Same thing happens when i try to gently brush my fingertip on his lips.
I try to caress her back or skin and she says i do it too softly, and it tickles too much (she usually scratches wherever i just touched as it tingles too much). We used to lay down and hug at night but she doesnt anymore as we sleep with our son on the bed and she doesnt like to face away from him.
i am not trying to have sex or anything, i just want us to maintain a romantic life. a passionate kiss every now and then. hold me and tell me you love me. snuggle. anything. but it is very rare if we ever do any of these things. i dont know if its that shes not in the mood or what but id like a more romantic life with her. how do i go about getting her to hold me or caress me. make me feel loved. how do i get her to want the same. i feel like i do all the trying and i dont see any results. should i just speed up the proposal, lol... any suggestions on how to be intimate with someone without having sex and how to make her want to be intimate.