girlnextdoor
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After five years, my husband still does not discuss plans with me or make arrangements with me. He continues to make plans based around what his ex wants or what his kids want. The problem is that he is married to me and not her. I don't want to find out about things, I want to be of his life and make plans together. I thought that was pretty basic to marriage. I have brought this up over and over. He gets angry at me for it. We have some financial problems and he just wants to blame me for everything instead of working things out together. I am about ready to leave. I have given and given in this marriage, done everything I can for his kids and for him and they have never done anything for me but demand more. I need some honest opinions...what is going on? Is there any hope that he will ever change? It feels like an effort to get him to be considerate of me or even acknowledge that I exist. If he does, his kids scream at him for "liking me better". I'm his WIFE, not his child. I thought a marriage was based on equality and communication. I just can't live in the shadow of his ex and kids anymore.