sparkleglowbug
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My boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for about 2 years. We live together, and get along really well and are best friends, but lately I have gotten so bored.
I realize that things die down and it's never as lovey dovey later as it is in the beginning, and I've come to accept that. There is an issue that I can't seem to just be okay with though:
I am really, really bored. He is super busy. He works full time, takes a couple of classes at the community college. Every night is the same thing. He comes home, we cook dinner, and I turn on the TV or read while he does his homework and then we go to sleep. He's out of the house by 7am every morning, and comes home about 7:30pm. He has 2 1/2 days off a week, but he spends those doing homework or just wanting to sit around the house and relax because the rest of his week is so packed. I understand that, but it also has sucked the life out of our relationship that we never do anything anymore...
I've tried to broach this topic with him (in a more pleasant way than i just phrased it), but he gets defensive and says he is too busy. I know he's also working hard to pay off his debt, so that's part of why he feels he can't go anywhere.
Thinking I was being helpful, I showed him a few websites online devoted to free and cheap creative date ideas--but they never happen.
This is a guy who used to write me poetry, bring me breakfast to work, buy presents for my mom because he knows how important she is to me...
Now, I am just feel so so stuck. I'm 26 and he will be 40 this year and I feel like I am in a lifeless relationship and that I'm too young to be living like this.
Ideas?
I realize that things die down and it's never as lovey dovey later as it is in the beginning, and I've come to accept that. There is an issue that I can't seem to just be okay with though:
I am really, really bored. He is super busy. He works full time, takes a couple of classes at the community college. Every night is the same thing. He comes home, we cook dinner, and I turn on the TV or read while he does his homework and then we go to sleep. He's out of the house by 7am every morning, and comes home about 7:30pm. He has 2 1/2 days off a week, but he spends those doing homework or just wanting to sit around the house and relax because the rest of his week is so packed. I understand that, but it also has sucked the life out of our relationship that we never do anything anymore...
I've tried to broach this topic with him (in a more pleasant way than i just phrased it), but he gets defensive and says he is too busy. I know he's also working hard to pay off his debt, so that's part of why he feels he can't go anywhere.
Thinking I was being helpful, I showed him a few websites online devoted to free and cheap creative date ideas--but they never happen.
This is a guy who used to write me poetry, bring me breakfast to work, buy presents for my mom because he knows how important she is to me...
Now, I am just feel so so stuck. I'm 26 and he will be 40 this year and I feel like I am in a lifeless relationship and that I'm too young to be living like this.
Ideas?