elhunto6754
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hi so a little background info:
over the summer, i met this girl. neither of us wanted a relationship, since i was going to college in the fall. we were dating and we hung out a lot, shared multiple good times. the day before i went for college, we had sex, me being a virgin and her not. i went off to college and asked her to come visit me. she did and started to develop feelings for me. around late september, she came one weekend and got too drunk and passed out. so im just sitting there on the computer when her phone buzzes. i check it to make sure it wasnt one of her friends looking for her. instead it was a guy who said "night babe". that made me curious as to why another guy would say that. so i looked at the 2 previous text messages and there was one from that same guy that said "happy 2 month babe, i love you and always will". so then i was like what the hell??? another guy? kinda freaked out a bit since i was drunk but woke up in the morning and asked her about him. the story being him was she met him at the first party i met her at, and she was dating both of us at the same time, keeping us quiet from eachother. she claims to have done nothing wrong, merely dating both of us. but there is a line between going on dates with multiple guys, and seeing 2 guys frequently in a manner more than "just a date". so i told her to choose one of us, she said she'd choose me in every category, and that she'd be in a relationship right now to prove it. I also found out that she lost her virginity to this guy, a mere 2 weeks after meeting him. he went to college early, so i assumed they had sex a few times before he left. ive been with her for almost 4 months, and i love her, but every now and then the summer flashes in my head, and all i picture is her having sex with this guy behind my back. and having her take my virginity keeps me asking myself, "why couldnt i have been the first one to fuck her? why??" she explains that she thought we were both summer flings, and that we would both sizzle out when we went to college, but things turned out different between me and her. she also said she kinda just wanted to lose it already, and that he was a nice enough guy.
the hardest part in my mind is that virginity can only be taken once. So my question is, how can i let go of this event in my head? Ive been building up my trust back with her, but i always feel like shit when this pops in my head. what can i do to purge this out of my mind? i just want to forget all that summer bull**** and remember the awesome times we have had after.
sorry this is such a long read, if you made it to the end and can offer me some help, thank you very much! it is very appreciated.
over the summer, i met this girl. neither of us wanted a relationship, since i was going to college in the fall. we were dating and we hung out a lot, shared multiple good times. the day before i went for college, we had sex, me being a virgin and her not. i went off to college and asked her to come visit me. she did and started to develop feelings for me. around late september, she came one weekend and got too drunk and passed out. so im just sitting there on the computer when her phone buzzes. i check it to make sure it wasnt one of her friends looking for her. instead it was a guy who said "night babe". that made me curious as to why another guy would say that. so i looked at the 2 previous text messages and there was one from that same guy that said "happy 2 month babe, i love you and always will". so then i was like what the hell??? another guy? kinda freaked out a bit since i was drunk but woke up in the morning and asked her about him. the story being him was she met him at the first party i met her at, and she was dating both of us at the same time, keeping us quiet from eachother. she claims to have done nothing wrong, merely dating both of us. but there is a line between going on dates with multiple guys, and seeing 2 guys frequently in a manner more than "just a date". so i told her to choose one of us, she said she'd choose me in every category, and that she'd be in a relationship right now to prove it. I also found out that she lost her virginity to this guy, a mere 2 weeks after meeting him. he went to college early, so i assumed they had sex a few times before he left. ive been with her for almost 4 months, and i love her, but every now and then the summer flashes in my head, and all i picture is her having sex with this guy behind my back. and having her take my virginity keeps me asking myself, "why couldnt i have been the first one to fuck her? why??" she explains that she thought we were both summer flings, and that we would both sizzle out when we went to college, but things turned out different between me and her. she also said she kinda just wanted to lose it already, and that he was a nice enough guy.
the hardest part in my mind is that virginity can only be taken once. So my question is, how can i let go of this event in my head? Ive been building up my trust back with her, but i always feel like shit when this pops in my head. what can i do to purge this out of my mind? i just want to forget all that summer bull**** and remember the awesome times we have had after.
sorry this is such a long read, if you made it to the end and can offer me some help, thank you very much! it is very appreciated.