How do I discuss without nagging?

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Pet hate......
When the b/f takes hours to reply with a simple yes or no answer to my text.
So yeah he might be busy. In fact he probably is.
It's annoying me tonight because he has always text me before when he is busy. His phone never leaves his side.
I think he has read my text and will prob reply in a couple of hours.
I am not normally demanding of his attention but it annoys me when people dont take the time to reply with a simple yes or no answer.
How do I tell him that without sounding like i'm nagging or irrational.
I need to get my point across that he used to make the effort to reply straight away so how come he takes hours these days.
Makes me feel like he's taking me for granted a bit - Stupid I know but it always starts with the little things
The relationship isn't based on texts. It's just a method of sometimes communicating.
He's not at work cos it's after 10pm where I live.

The question is how do I discuss without nagging .
Some of you have answered some other question. Cheers anyway
 
if your relationship is bases mostly on text messages, thats a bad sign already.
 
don't sweat the small stuff, that is a nag. there is no way that isn't a nag. that's like asking how do i tell this black guy next door that i hate black people without sounding racist.

i am not racist that was an example
 
What? OMG. Not all days are the same. When my honey doesnt reply in like 3 mins...i know he's at work. Especially if he takes a little over an hour to reply. Have you ever thought that maybe he has been too busy or he doesnt want to answer your question? Is it that important to the point where you have to ask when he's at work??

I think you should tell him what you feel but do it in a normal manner. Dont seem like you're upset about it...if he doesnt want to answer then dont make him...which would turn into nagging.
 
I like to add a "please let me know by ____" to my questions. Then should the deadline pass I will follow-up.

This creates a shared expectation of the time by which I want an answer.

As we go through life letting people know what we want and how soon we want it can make our relationships go more smoothly.

I am not a big fan of SMS messaging much of the time; having a voice conversation is often far more intimate and far more efficient. SMS is a great way to send information like an address or an FYI, but it is not so great for having a dialog.
 
I had a fiance like that. I'm sorry to say that I found out that the times he was 'busy' and couldn't reply were when he was with another woman. Needless to say he's my ex now.
I hope that's not the case with you though.
 
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