Sarah Thompson
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My younger (under 10) brother is now in my custody and he has aspergers. I am having some problems getting him to obey me and I know it was because his parents allowed him to run the house, so to speak. I don't ask much, just for him to make his bed, eat his food, help around the house a little (empty trash, sweep, little things like that...), and to speak properly. He does know how to do all these things, but he simply refuses. His parents allowed him to be lazy and would cater to him. Especially his food. He will only eat, maybe, 10 or 15 different things. Nothing I have done to discipline him is working. I cannot sit him in a chair because he will get up. If I attempt to put him back in the chair, he will get physical with me and pull my hair, bite, kick, hit etc... He has given me bruises and large gashes multiple times. If I take his games/toys away, the same thing ensues. If I remove toys from his room while he is at school, he will attack me when he gets home. I am not a large woman and he is very strong. I cannot spank him because I cannot restrain him, and I cannot get him to put soap in his mouth. He cannot write yet, and if I stand him in the corner he will just leave or get physically violent. What do I do? Please help!
Btw, if you can't tell from the above... having a calm discussion is also out of the question because I can't get him to actually sit down to begin with.
Awkwardly Balanced - I hear what you're saying. He does have structure and balance. Daily routines and such, he knows what to expect day to day. I cannot leave the food thing alone for now. Doritos, ice cream, chicken nuggets, pizza... he's not getting proper nutrition from those and as a growing boy he needs the vitamins from veggies, fruits, whole grains... He simply will not try new things and he won't take any vitamins. His obsession is television, specifically, violent movies. I am sorry if I sound ignorant, but I am still learning about Aspergers. If you have time, please explain to me what statements were "ignorant". I only want what is best for my brother and I do not want to cause him any harm or stunt his growth.
Btw, if you can't tell from the above... having a calm discussion is also out of the question because I can't get him to actually sit down to begin with.
Awkwardly Balanced - I hear what you're saying. He does have structure and balance. Daily routines and such, he knows what to expect day to day. I cannot leave the food thing alone for now. Doritos, ice cream, chicken nuggets, pizza... he's not getting proper nutrition from those and as a growing boy he needs the vitamins from veggies, fruits, whole grains... He simply will not try new things and he won't take any vitamins. His obsession is television, specifically, violent movies. I am sorry if I sound ignorant, but I am still learning about Aspergers. If you have time, please explain to me what statements were "ignorant". I only want what is best for my brother and I do not want to cause him any harm or stunt his growth.