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At work, back in March, a new female co-worker was hired. I found out later that we have the same interests, and when we started working together I got to know her better. Suddenly, at the end of May, something clicked, and I was suddenly smitten with her.
I'd notice signs that indicated that she might've been into me - there were times I'd catch her staring at me even when I wasn't talking to her; she often interrogated me about my activities; her body language was always open (she almost always faced me directly; never had her arms crossed). One day, she sat right next to me on the couch, even though she could've sat at the opposite end of it, or on another chair. We've never worked together very often, but when we do, we always have great talks. Sometimes she'd mention a "buddy" that she goes to the gym with and hangs out. On Facebook, she listed herself as "single".
In August, I finally asked her out for coffee and she said yes. Earlier that day, I overheard her talking to another co-worker, and when talk of boyfriends came up, her "buddy" was mentioned. She said that he was "just a buddy"; the guy thinks that they're in a serious relationship but she doesn't, so she would have to have a conversation with him about that.
So this woman and I tried setting up a date for coffee (she only works part-time; I work full-time, so we rarely have the same days off); she was either called in for extra shifts, or she ended up being sick for a couple of weeks. We finally had our coffee date today, almost 1 month after I had asked her out.
She mentioned needing to move, and then suddenly she drops the B-Bomb. This is the same boyfriend who was "just a buddy" over 1 month ago, and she had even refused to refer to him as a "boyfriend" at the time. What a big change in 1 month. She said that she doesn't want to move in with him because she doesn't want to commit, and she doesn't want to live with female roommates because of any potential drama.
We had a great meeting and talked about a lot of personal stuff, and lost track of time. Over an hour had flew by, and she asked me what time it was. She said that she was supposed to meet with her boyfriend over 10 minutes ago. She said she would like to get together again.
I've talked to 2 other people about this; one person said that I should just lay out all the cards on the table and let her know how I feel about her. Another said that it sounds like she's playing games. I'm wondering if I should offer to be roommates with her so save her from the 2 choices that she doesn't want to make, and try to weasel my way into her heart or wait out her relationship - but then seeing her with her boyfriend would really kill me.
Of course, I'm strongly leaning towards the first option of just telling her how I feel, and whichever way it goes, at least I can move on with my life. What do you think? I certainly don't want to go through the Jim & Pam thing from "The Office".
I forgot to add that even to this day, she still lists herself as "single" on Facebook.
I'd notice signs that indicated that she might've been into me - there were times I'd catch her staring at me even when I wasn't talking to her; she often interrogated me about my activities; her body language was always open (she almost always faced me directly; never had her arms crossed). One day, she sat right next to me on the couch, even though she could've sat at the opposite end of it, or on another chair. We've never worked together very often, but when we do, we always have great talks. Sometimes she'd mention a "buddy" that she goes to the gym with and hangs out. On Facebook, she listed herself as "single".
In August, I finally asked her out for coffee and she said yes. Earlier that day, I overheard her talking to another co-worker, and when talk of boyfriends came up, her "buddy" was mentioned. She said that he was "just a buddy"; the guy thinks that they're in a serious relationship but she doesn't, so she would have to have a conversation with him about that.
So this woman and I tried setting up a date for coffee (she only works part-time; I work full-time, so we rarely have the same days off); she was either called in for extra shifts, or she ended up being sick for a couple of weeks. We finally had our coffee date today, almost 1 month after I had asked her out.
She mentioned needing to move, and then suddenly she drops the B-Bomb. This is the same boyfriend who was "just a buddy" over 1 month ago, and she had even refused to refer to him as a "boyfriend" at the time. What a big change in 1 month. She said that she doesn't want to move in with him because she doesn't want to commit, and she doesn't want to live with female roommates because of any potential drama.
We had a great meeting and talked about a lot of personal stuff, and lost track of time. Over an hour had flew by, and she asked me what time it was. She said that she was supposed to meet with her boyfriend over 10 minutes ago. She said she would like to get together again.
I've talked to 2 other people about this; one person said that I should just lay out all the cards on the table and let her know how I feel about her. Another said that it sounds like she's playing games. I'm wondering if I should offer to be roommates with her so save her from the 2 choices that she doesn't want to make, and try to weasel my way into her heart or wait out her relationship - but then seeing her with her boyfriend would really kill me.
Of course, I'm strongly leaning towards the first option of just telling her how I feel, and whichever way it goes, at least I can move on with my life. What do you think? I certainly don't want to go through the Jim & Pam thing from "The Office".
I forgot to add that even to this day, she still lists herself as "single" on Facebook.