I have been working with a female coworker for several months now and have developed very strong feelings for her. I believe she had felt the same way for the past couple months by way of her body language. She would come to my cubicle often and sit on my armrest and lean her arm on or around me, and I would do the same. She used to stay with me every night as I work very late sometimes and most of the time has stayed with me till I left (even until 11pm). Everybody in the office thought we were interested in each other....and I mean everybody (we are pretty lax at the office). We went to lunch often sometimes by ourselves and others with coworkers. We have hung out a good number of times outside of work and have had moments where we would lean on each other and just talk or have a coffee/dinner. We've texted, im'd and had a couple of webcam chats before and they have all been fun and lively.
But...on valentine's day i had given her an origami rose that I spent a good amount of time learning how to make the day before. Since that week, her body language has changed and we have not been as close as before. We still talk and have laughs around the office, but the physical closeness has decreased quite a bit.
I have been quite down during these past couple of weeks and she knows this, but has never made any mention of romantic feelings. I tried to bring it up when I was alone with her a couple days ago but the conversation went in a way I was not prepared for so I didn't pursue that time (she had asked me what was on my mind and I asked in return if it would be weird if i said it was her, she said a little. Told her I'd been down because she'd been acting differently around me this past week. She claimed pms). Our texts haven't been as lively as before, and her responses have been a little less frequent. Our current relationship is such that it's as if I did not attempt to make known my feelings for her. Like I said we still talk and hang out at the office.
I'm confused by this just as my coworkers are because they had thought for sure something was going to happen between us. We can't put our fingers on it. I've been told to man up and just tell her how I feel, but if she doesn't feel the same way I would like to keep our friendship.
I know that interoffice romances are not a good idea, but I am completely in love with this girl and would like to at least let her know how I feel and also find out how she feels. Whether it be good or bad, I will at least know to move on. My friends have also told me to just talk to her about it and see it through. Some have told me to just forget it.
Have I missed a sort of golden opportunity here? Like I should have told her on Valentine's Day but didn't? Should I take her decreased actions after receiving my gift on Valentine's Day that she is not interested in me in that way? If I were to confess to her, what would be the best way to have a plan B, which is to stay as good friends?
But...on valentine's day i had given her an origami rose that I spent a good amount of time learning how to make the day before. Since that week, her body language has changed and we have not been as close as before. We still talk and have laughs around the office, but the physical closeness has decreased quite a bit.
I have been quite down during these past couple of weeks and she knows this, but has never made any mention of romantic feelings. I tried to bring it up when I was alone with her a couple days ago but the conversation went in a way I was not prepared for so I didn't pursue that time (she had asked me what was on my mind and I asked in return if it would be weird if i said it was her, she said a little. Told her I'd been down because she'd been acting differently around me this past week. She claimed pms). Our texts haven't been as lively as before, and her responses have been a little less frequent. Our current relationship is such that it's as if I did not attempt to make known my feelings for her. Like I said we still talk and hang out at the office.
I'm confused by this just as my coworkers are because they had thought for sure something was going to happen between us. We can't put our fingers on it. I've been told to man up and just tell her how I feel, but if she doesn't feel the same way I would like to keep our friendship.
I know that interoffice romances are not a good idea, but I am completely in love with this girl and would like to at least let her know how I feel and also find out how she feels. Whether it be good or bad, I will at least know to move on. My friends have also told me to just talk to her about it and see it through. Some have told me to just forget it.
Have I missed a sort of golden opportunity here? Like I should have told her on Valentine's Day but didn't? Should I take her decreased actions after receiving my gift on Valentine's Day that she is not interested in me in that way? If I were to confess to her, what would be the best way to have a plan B, which is to stay as good friends?