She's basically my best friend. I mean I'm closer to her than I am anyone else, except my sisters.
We're not a lot alike though. She never wants to do what I want to do and I started realizing that since we became friends, I've kind of let her manipulate me. I let her opinions get to me and I thought she was right about everything so I started acting like her and doing things she did.
Like movies, we never watch movies unless she wants to. all we ever do is sit in her basement and talk, or go to the mall. Because thats all she ever wants to do.
She never wants to go to concerts unless it's her favorite band (Bowling for Soup) and since she wants to be a musician she thinks her opinion is boss on what good music is and that most new bands suck.
Then over the summer we went on vacation with her family first and she'd get pissy at me about the dumbest things. Like me saying it'd be funny to do something against the rules, she'd say how disrespectful it is and blow up and I'd just be like okay, sorry you take everything so seriously.
Then on vacation with my family when we'd walk on the beach at night, every time guys would walk up she'd just be like "we have to go" and be really awkward about it, and I'd be like I don't want to go. We're on vacation, we can hang out with guys for one night of our lives. But she only likes one guy (who is in that band...) and says she doesn't have any interest in talking to other guys. So of course, we never do.
Then I said that this summer we should do stuff like go kayaking and canoeing and hiking and putt putting and rollerblading and she was like "that all sounds so dumb" and I'm like okay, what do you want to do? Sit in the grass and talk some more, because that gets us so many places.
I just get bored and aggravated because we never do anything that she doesn't want to do, even though I want to.
We argue all the time now because I've always been the kind of person who is just like whatever and let's things go but now if she says something that I don't agree with I'll actually say my opinion and it drives her nuts. Then she says I get so worked up over things and I'm like no I don't, you're the one who thinks that your opinion on everything is right and no one elses opinion matters.
Ugh. I just don't know what to do anymore. I stopped being friends with a ton of people because of her and now I realize what a mistake it was. I like her, I'm just sick of her controlling everything, it gets really old. And I'm so bored because we never get to do what I want to do and I don't want to do a lot of stuff alone. Like kayaking. Oh fun, let me kayak down the river by myself.
We always argue now though and then she's really awkward about it because she can never accept that she may actually be wrong and I'm sick of it. I don't know how to put up with it anymore. What do you do when your closest friend drives you nuts?
We're not a lot alike though. She never wants to do what I want to do and I started realizing that since we became friends, I've kind of let her manipulate me. I let her opinions get to me and I thought she was right about everything so I started acting like her and doing things she did.
Like movies, we never watch movies unless she wants to. all we ever do is sit in her basement and talk, or go to the mall. Because thats all she ever wants to do.
She never wants to go to concerts unless it's her favorite band (Bowling for Soup) and since she wants to be a musician she thinks her opinion is boss on what good music is and that most new bands suck.
Then over the summer we went on vacation with her family first and she'd get pissy at me about the dumbest things. Like me saying it'd be funny to do something against the rules, she'd say how disrespectful it is and blow up and I'd just be like okay, sorry you take everything so seriously.
Then on vacation with my family when we'd walk on the beach at night, every time guys would walk up she'd just be like "we have to go" and be really awkward about it, and I'd be like I don't want to go. We're on vacation, we can hang out with guys for one night of our lives. But she only likes one guy (who is in that band...) and says she doesn't have any interest in talking to other guys. So of course, we never do.
Then I said that this summer we should do stuff like go kayaking and canoeing and hiking and putt putting and rollerblading and she was like "that all sounds so dumb" and I'm like okay, what do you want to do? Sit in the grass and talk some more, because that gets us so many places.
I just get bored and aggravated because we never do anything that she doesn't want to do, even though I want to.
We argue all the time now because I've always been the kind of person who is just like whatever and let's things go but now if she says something that I don't agree with I'll actually say my opinion and it drives her nuts. Then she says I get so worked up over things and I'm like no I don't, you're the one who thinks that your opinion on everything is right and no one elses opinion matters.
Ugh. I just don't know what to do anymore. I stopped being friends with a ton of people because of her and now I realize what a mistake it was. I like her, I'm just sick of her controlling everything, it gets really old. And I'm so bored because we never get to do what I want to do and I don't want to do a lot of stuff alone. Like kayaking. Oh fun, let me kayak down the river by myself.
We always argue now though and then she's really awkward about it because she can never accept that she may actually be wrong and I'm sick of it. I don't know how to put up with it anymore. What do you do when your closest friend drives you nuts?